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Talk to them about what you want for a funeral and what they want.

Now telling them to wrap you up and throw you in the ditch is not what you are going to tell them. No spouse would ever do that unless they hate you and are trying to get rid of your body.

Put these instructions in an envelope somewhere safe in your house and tell them where you put it. Do not put it with your will. Quite often the will is not opened until after the funeral.

Funerals are for the living whether it's a religious ceremony or just having a group of friends and family gather at your house and having a few beers. Funerals give an opportunity to express your condolences to the surviving family and to talk about the good times.