Cremation discussion thread
 

Currently I have no plans for management of my body after death.

I really feel that cremation is what I'd want.

My remains to be scattered over the waves. On a day when the waves are really nice!

All of my pets have been buried in my yard by me, never cremated. I really never understood why I need an urn of my pet's remains over just knowing where they lay "at rest". I realize everyone's different in how they view these matters, so no disrespect intended.

Anyway I was looking at a local business website that handles cremations:
https://cremationservicesdaytonabeach.com/

Looks like their basic price is $795 - I supply my own container -or- $845 - with their cardboard container

Plus additional fees as needed:

https://cremationservicesdaytonabeach.com/pricing/

I guess I can call and get more info but in the meantime wondering how some of the folks here are handling things wrt cremation.

Make arrangements ahead of time and pre-pay?

I don't have a significant other or children.

I think cremation is the best way to go....haven't made any arrangements early, but I will.
Just be aware..the ashes will not be your own.

there's a cremation place not too far, $695. I've told all my family just dump me off over there. Then my daughter says, ha ha, then we'll be doing donuts in your 911 in the parking lot. they love me. right?

^^^ It's good that your 911 doesn't use anti-freeze. :D

Both my parents were cremated. Their remains are at West Point per his wishes in a small stone memorial.

Put your desires in your Will and let the Executor deal with it. My ashes will be spread in three places: my favorite river in California that I kayaked a gillion times, the Potomac just off the farm here, and Dogs Beach in Coronado.

I am headed off this planet quietly, zero fanfare, just like my Dad. My Mom was beloved in SC and the funeral was frankly really hard for me and my Dad. There were a lot of people there and I just wanted to say good-bye.

No nothing (double negative, I know): So it is written, so let it be so. Everyone I love knows how I feel.

To quote Santini, the Great Santini: Buenos Dias, Rustpickers.

I set up cremation about a year ago. I went cheap, no frills. I hope to spend my last dollar on the last day I live but would rather someone else do that than spend whats left t on a funeral. Instructions are in a desk drawer marked dead. My people are aware.

At the website I referenced, for pet cremations you have a "communal" option which is cheaper and means there is more than one body cremated at the same time.

Is this what you are referring to?

I have to go back to Denmark next year to make sure my relatives don't all get pulled from the ground.

Every fifty years somebody's got to pay the Govt. to be allowed to have your ashes stay in the ground.

^^^ Baz
I read a couple books about cremations....it will surprise you.
The cost of doing a single body at a time is a business killer. They save them up and do up to 20 at a time to keep the costs down. (nobody knows the diff)
And be sure to donate any gold crowns before you die...or the crematorium gets them.

I'm with on everything you wrote, Paul.

On the above quote, does an executor typically have this information ahead of time, so cremation wishes can be fulfilled as desired?

In my mother's case her cremation was prepaid by her in the UK. It was easy for my sister and I. I just phoned up the crematorium and everything was looked after.

OTOH we have not prepaid ours. My concern is they may not be in business anymore when my my turn comes. :eek:

That's quite a good price Baz.

But for me to take advantage of it I'd need to fly to FLA, pay in advance 'cause I'm a foreigner, get killed in action. Oh it's all getting complicated.

The scottish in me is always trying to save money so I guess I'll just go missing in a boating accident.

While you are at it, make out an advance directive.

Yes. At least in the two cases I has been the Executor. My Dad and I went through the Will with his lawyer. There were no doubts.

The only way to do it, Baz, is to find one or two folks and work through the details in advance. I have a bingo, bango, bongo succession of Executors, starting with my wife and running down the kid chain. The kid lawyer is last on the list. :D

Sound odd? Pass away without a plan and imagine the mayhem.

Everyone, please do this. We all get uncomfortable with the discussion, but I was so grateful that my Dad worked through this and one was in place.

Big time illegal in most places. I know it definitely is here in jersey. Most retorts only hold one body at a time.

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Cremation is definitely on my wish list. Want my ashes dumped in the Atlantic. Really want a Viking funeral, but wifey wont go for that...:D

Alkaline hydrolysis is another option for me. You body gets dissolved in acid and flushed down the drain.

When I had my dogs cremated they were done individually. Cost me a little more but wanted to be sure.


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I want a Viking Funeral also, as do a few people I know.

Told my wife to put my ashes in a cardboard 'boat' and light it up....

I've paid for my "simple cremation" and asked my wife to rent a plane and scatter the ashes over my favorite place in the Sierras. She says she might hold onto them and have both our ashed scattered together. Still have a couple of things to plan out and hope to get er done reasonably soon. Time keeps flying by.

Ha, told my wife the same. I have a s#!tload of boat models. Said she can use one of them! :p


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+1, I have personal knowledge of a situation where the desire was for a parent to be cremated along with their child and this could not be accommodated legally. This was circa 1997 but I doubt the law has become any more loose here.

My dad's express wish is to be cremated and have some (or preferably all) of his remains shot out of the cannon at Trophy Point (West Point) during reveille.

I hope someone prepares my canoe with cedar boughs to take me back to the place I came from - and I'm not talking about Boise.

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THAT would be fantastic!

We've had a couple of our pups cremated. I then scatter them somewhere.

I'm game for being cremated. I'm not going to feel it or care. I wouldn't care if I was buried other than that it's a waste of money and space. Stick me in a pine box and reduce me to ash (or a cardboard box since it's being burned).

Dad passed in July and he wanted cremation, but we still had a ceremony at church. As for me, I don't really care what happens, I'm gonna be dead, i won't know the difference. Its really all about cost and NOT spending so much money.

When my dad passed away, he wanted to be cremated. Did'nt even want a funeral or service, but being Italian, no way my mom was letting that happen...

At the funeral home we were picking out a casket for him. The funeral director was trying to sell me this $10,000 thing made out of mahogany or some other exotic crap. He's saying stuff like, dont you want the best for your father? I told the guy, ( who was also a member of dads american legion post..) "Listen, 48 hrs from now it is going to be a lump of charcoal, besides, if my old man sees me spending that much money on one, he will haunt and torture me for the rest of my life. Give me the nice cheap one..."

$1,100 later...


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I've told my wife to use Costco:

https://www.costco.com/funeral-caskets.html?&reloaded=true

My dogs have all been cremated and we have spread their ashes at a camping spot in Wyoming that we went too a lot with them.

For me......


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Build your own damn casket...

https://casketplans.shop/

If I am lucky I can do it myself, no need to burden others. Get myself way, way out one hundred miles or more. Have a few drinks make my peace with the world, a few more drinks and a handful of put ya to sleep pills to ensure I don't wake up in the middle of the festivities, open the seacocks, sit back, relax, watch the sunset until I close my eyes.


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Nice!

Your post got me wondering if they ever showed up on CL.

Sure enough there's 2 on there right now....only $300/ea!

https://daytona.craigslist.org/d/for-sale/search/sss?query=casket&sort=rel

I recently went through this with my father and was blown away by the price range of cremations. From a few thousand at the local funeral home to $650 at a local specialist. We chose the latter (confirmed no mixing of ashes). Bought a few small urns from their catalog and that was it. I just couldn't stomach a $2k delta to have it done in a nice marble and stone building versus a store front in a small strip mall. The result was exactly the same.

Yes, I think they need to get the machine up to temp (sort of like an air cooled 911) then load them in one at a time. Near to me there is a crematorium across the road from an old people home - not very subtle. If I end up there I'll just get the wheelbarrow level of hearse and get cremated using the cheaper night rate package. I can't imagine anyone turning up to my funeral service if there was one.

I have many friends and one brother who is a halfway decent guy - but would still rather find someone outside the family so that's what I will do.

Maybe also have a large sign on the wall that faces the front door "Please open upon my death" that will contain my wishes and instructions. I have attorney friends too I can plug in as needed.

You can get a little discount by prepaying your cremation. They get the money now and expect you to live a while longer, so you get locked in at current pricing. I deal with the demographic that cannot afford to prepay for anything, so they often get roped into super expensive payment plans, where, if they don't pay the plan off within 2-4 yrs, they get socked with a 40% finance charge and then they never really pay it off. Gotta be sure to prepay at a place that's part of a national network or is wherever you're sure you'll die. I ran into a guy whose 95 yr old mom prepaid everything for $5000 in 1988 in Dallas. She's in Phoenix now, will die here and will not get transported back to Dallas for that funeral plan. It's free money for that funeral home.

I prefer to be cooked in a coffin rather than a casket..


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What's the difference, Vin?

I'm thinking cremation and an urn made out of a piston or similar auto part . Add a Porsche crest and good to go 😋

I think you'd need something like the dry sump tank from a 3.2 liter Carrera to hold all the ashes.

Piston is too wee. The (c)remains are too mighty.