Cremation discussion thread

Baz · Baz's Garage

Currently I have no plans for management of my body after death.

I really feel that cremation is what I'd want.

My remains to be scattered over the waves. On a day when the waves are really nice!

All of my pets have been buried in my yard by me, never cremated. I really never understood why I need an urn of my pet's remains over just knowing where they lay "at rest". I realize everyone's different in how they view these matters, so no disrespect intended.

Anyway I was looking at a local business website that handles cremations:
https://cremationservicesdaytonabeach.com/

Looks like their basic price is $795 - I supply my own container -or- $845 - with their cardboard container

Plus additional fees as needed:

https://cremationservicesdaytonabeach.com/pricing/

I guess I can call and get more info but in the meantime wondering how some of the folks here are handling things wrt cremation.

Make arrangements ahead of time and pre-pay?

I don't have a significant other or children.

stevej37 · 11-23-2021, 10:42 AM

I think cremation is the best way to go....haven't made any arrangements early, but I will.
Just be aware..the ashes will not be your own.

scotricker · 11-23-2021, 10:46 AM

there's a cremation place not too far, $695. I've told all my family just dump me off over there. Then my daughter says, ha ha, then we'll be doing donuts in your 911 in the parking lot. they love me. right?

stevej37 · 11-23-2021, 10:52 AM

^^^ It's good that your 911 doesn't use anti-freeze.

Seahawk · 10:57 AM

Both my parents were cremated. Their remains are at West Point per his wishes in a small stone memorial.

Put your desires in your Will and let the Executor deal with it. My ashes will be spread in three places: my favorite river in California that I kayaked a gillion times, the Potomac just off the farm here, and Dogs Beach in Coronado.

I am headed off this planet quietly, zero fanfare, just like my Dad. My Mom was beloved in SC and the funeral was frankly really hard for me and my Dad. There were a lot of people there and I just wanted to say good-bye.

No nothing (double negative, I know): So it is written, so let it be so. Everyone I love knows how I feel.

To quote Santini, the Great Santini: Buenos Dias, Rustpickers.

JackDidley · JackDidley's Garage

I set up cremation about a year ago. I went cheap, no frills. I hope to spend my last dollar on the last day I live but would rather someone else do that than spend whats left t on a funeral. Instructions are in a desk drawer marked dead. My people are aware.

Baz · Baz's Garage

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Originally Posted by stevej37

Just be aware..the ashes will not be your own.

At the website I referenced, for pet cremations you have a "communal" option which is cheaper and means there is more than one body cremated at the same time.

Is this what you are referring to?

3rd_gear_Ted · 3rd_gear_Ted's Garage

I have to go back to Denmark next year to make sure my relatives don't all get pulled from the ground.

Every fifty years somebody's got to pay the Govt. to be allowed to have your ashes stay in the ground.

stevej37 · 11:25 AM

^^^ Baz
I read a couple books about cremations....it will surprise you.
The cost of doing a single body at a time is a business killer. They save them up and do up to 20 at a time to keep the costs down. (nobody knows the diff)
And be sure to donate any gold crowns before you die...or the crematorium gets them.

Baz · Baz's Garage

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Originally Posted by Seahawk

Put your desires in your Will and let the Executor deal with it.

I'm with on everything you wrote, Paul.

On the above quote, does an executor typically have this information ahead of time, so cremation wishes can be fulfilled as desired?

recycled sixtie · recycled sixtie's Garage

In my mother's case her cremation was prepaid by her in the UK. It was easy for my sister and I. I just phoned up the crematorium and everything was looked after.

OTOH we have not prepaid ours. My concern is they may not be in business anymore when my my turn comes.

Bill Douglas · 11-23-2021, 11:48 AM

That's quite a good price Baz.

But for me to take advantage of it I'd need to fly to FLA, pay in advance 'cause I'm a foreigner, get killed in action. Oh it's all getting complicated.

The scottish in me is always trying to save money so I guess I'll just go missing in a boating accident.

JackDidley · JackDidley's Garage

While you are at it, make out an advance directive.

Seahawk · 11-23-2021, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Baz

...does an executor typically have this information ahead of time, so cremation wishes can be fulfilled as desired?

Yes. At least in the two cases I has been the Executor. My Dad and I went through the Will with his lawyer. There were no doubts.

The only way to do it, Baz, is to find one or two folks and work through the details in advance. I have a bingo, bango, bongo succession of Executors, starting with my wife and running down the kid chain. The kid lawyer is last on the list.

Sound odd? Pass away without a plan and imagine the mayhem.

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Originally Posted by JackDidley

While you are at it, make out an advance directive.

Everyone, please do this. We all get uncomfortable with the discussion, but I was so grateful that my Dad worked through this and one was in place.

VINMAN · 11-23-2021, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by stevej37

^^^ Baz
The cost of doing a single body at a time is a business killer. They save them up and do up to 20 at a time to keep the costs down. (nobody knows the diff)

Big time illegal in most places. I know it definitely is here in jersey. Most retorts only hold one body at a time.

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VINMAN · 11-23-2021, 12:11 PM

Cremation is definitely on my wish list. Want my ashes dumped in the Atlantic. Really want a Viking funeral, but wifey wont go for that...

Alkaline hydrolysis is another option for me. You body gets dissolved in acid and flushed down the drain.

When I had my dogs cremated they were done individually. Cost me a little more but wanted to be sure.

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dad911 · 11-23-2021, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by VINMAN

Cremation is definitely on my wish list. Want my ashes dumped in the Atlantic. Really want a Viking funeral, but wifey wont go for that...

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I want a Viking Funeral also, as do a few people I know.

Told my wife to put my ashes in a cardboard 'boat' and light it up....

Evans, Marv · 11-23-2021, 12:41 PM

I've paid for my "simple cremation" and asked my wife to rent a plane and scatter the ashes over my favorite place in the Sierras. She says she might hold onto them and have both our ashed scattered together. Still have a couple of things to plan out and hope to get er done reasonably soon. Time keeps flying by.

VINMAN · 11-23-2021, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by dad911

I want a Viking Funeral also, as do a few people I know.

Told my wife to put my ashes in a cardboard 'boat' and light it up....

Ha, told my wife the same. I have a s#!tload of boat models. Said she can use one of them!

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Tishabet · 11-23-2021, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by VINMAN

Big time illegal in most places. I know it definitely is here in jersey. Most retorts only hold one body at a time.

+1, I have personal knowledge of a situation where the desire was for a parent to be cremated along with their child and this could not be accommodated legally. This was circa 1997 but I doubt the law has become any more loose here.

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Originally Posted by Seahawk

Both my parents were cremated. Their remains are at West Point per his wishes in a small stone memorial.

My dad's express wish is to be cremated and have some (or preferably all) of his remains shot out of the cannon at Trophy Point (West Point) during reveille.