cure for loneliness?

[Steve Carlton]

This came up in my YouTube feed the other day. Sam was awesome! Saw his live once, too.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by Baz

So true..

Fun fact, I'm sitting not far from where he used to hang out.
Edit to add, I'm renting a loft in a 100 year old building that has been renovated from a seedy hotel, he may have rented a room here.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by Steve Carlton

This came up in my YouTube feed the other day. Sam was awesome! Saw his live once, too.

Thanks, I needed that

[svandamme]

Originally Posted by Baz

I never married, never will, I stay away from women's cause I know I fall for the crazy ones. My mother is a crazy woman, I'm sure that has something to do with it..
Put 10 good looking ones in a row.. I will be drawn to the one that has lots of issues under the surface.. recent divorcee, bipolar, military grade debt, basically I can spot a camouflaged stripper from a mile away.
In my twenties I thought I was lonely and that I needed to get in a relation.. but it was nothing but trouble.. Till i decided No mas. Not worth getting into trouble over.
I'm 47 now, I'm not even looking, hell if one comes knocking on my door. I'll pretend not to be home.
The idea that I wake up and there is somebody in my house, other than my catrs, just creeps me out now..
So at this point , I call it freedom, not loneliness.
Started looking for a house, 3 days later had signed and bought the place
Decide I want A Porsche, just bought it, decide I want a bmw , 2 days later I have it.
I can decide things really fast as I am unanimous in that

For me, I have to be busy at work and I look at volunteering to have purpose.
Vacation can't last to long else I run out of stuff to do, I get bored, and get way to inactive. Especially in winter No ball and chain to give me chores or get me off my butt.

Summer less of a problem..

I have cats.. But a dog would work as well, I just prefer cats cause they aren't as needy for walks and they don't absolutely need a regular pattern.. I don't think I will ever fully retire.. it wouldn't do me much good and I would become inactive and that would be the end of it.

[astrochex]

Originally Posted by Steve Carlton

This came up in my YouTube feed the other day. Sam was awesome! Saw his live once, too.

Way funnier than I anticipated.

[javadog]

Originally Posted by Capt. Carrera

I agree problem is, the sex sucks haha

We’ll then, you aren’t doing it right…

[berettafan]

Damn that pup pic is absolutely adorable!!!! Looks like he's ready for fun!

[jhynesrockmtn]

Originally Posted by svandamme

I never married, never will, I stay away from women's cause I know I fall for the crazy ones. My mother is a crazy woman, I'm sure that has something to do with it..
Put 10 good looking ones in a row.. I will be drawn to the one that has lots of issues under the surface.. recent divorcee, bipolar, military grade debt, basically I can spot a camouflaged stripper from a mile away.
In my twenties I thought I was lonely and that I needed to get in a relation.. but it was nothing but trouble.. Till i decided No mas. Not worth getting into trouble over.
I'm 47 now, I'm not even looking, hell if one comes knocking on my door. I'll pretend not to be home.
The idea that I wake up and there is somebody in my house, other than my catrs, just creeps me out now..
So at this point , I call it freedom, not loneliness.
Started looking for a house, 3 days later had signed and bought the place
Decide I want A Porsche, just bought it, decide I want a bmw , 2 days later I have it.
I can decide things really fast as I am unanimous in that

For me, I have to be busy at work and I look at volunteering to have purpose.
Vacation can't last to long else I run out of stuff to do, I get bored, and get way to inactive. Especially in winter No ball and chain to give me chores or get me off my butt.

Summer less of a problem..

I have cats.. But a dog would work as well, I just prefer cats cause they aren't as needy for walks and they don't absolutely need a regular pattern.. I don't think I will ever fully retire.. it wouldn't do me much good and I would become inactive and that would be the end of it.

Interesting perspective. If it works for you and you are happy, no need to mess with it. I guess my only response would be to leave yourself open to some type of relationship. It wouldn't have to be marriage. What about someone who wants companionship but is fine maintaining her own life like you have? Maybe spend weekends and occasional travel together. Something like that. Get together when it works for both of you. Maybe that doesn't exist.

If anything were to happen to my wife, I wouldn't marry again. I feel lucky to have her in my life but she was a needle in a haystack. Upbeat personality, beautiful but humble, sneaky smart and funny, her kids are great. We married in 2016. I was 53, she was right 59. Kids all grown and doing well. No drama, which had always been my dealbreaker in prior relationships when I was single in my 40's and early 50's. A unicorn. I'd been on dating sites on and off for several years. Of course she was introduced to me by mutual friends after I moved to a new city. I keep my retirement assets acquired prior to marriage separate. She'll be fine financially if I pass first, but the principal goes into a trust to be managed by my kids. She'll get the dividend/interest income to live on. Everything then goes to them. I do consult her on things like car purchases, but given I made my money before we met, she knows what she got. A car nut who doesn't need to rationalize 5 old Porsches in the shop to anyone.

Would I be lonely if I didn't have her in my life. Yes, definitely. She's who I spend 95% of my time with. She listens to my &*(^ and makes me laugh. I enjoy doing things to make her happy. My poor kids would have to put up with a lot more of me :-) Thankfully she is healthy and happy. I rationalized our age difference to her when we got serious by saying statistically we'd probably die around the same time. She was very hesitant to date someone younger at the time.

[Tobra]

I will never be lonely, too close to the grandkids for that.

My ex-wife, karma is biting her in the ass pretty hard. She will be taking care of her second husband until his Parkinson's and dementia get too bad for her to manage, then she will be alone until she dies. I feel sorry for her, but think I am the only one who does.

Sort of expected my sister to bury her with one of the horses out in the pasture, to tell the truth

[svandamme]

Originally Posted by jhynesrockmtn

Interesting perspective. If it works for you and you are happy, no need to mess with it. I guess my only response would be to leave yourself open to some type of relationship. It wouldn't have to be marriage. What about someone who wants companionship but is fine maintaining her own life like you have? Maybe spend weekends and occasional travel together. Something like that. Get together when it works for both of you. Maybe that doesn't exist.

That don't work cause I'm an idjut with womens..Like totally useless..
I pick the wrong ones, pretty sure me having an interest is a guarantee they are mentioned as case studies for several chapters in the DSM-5 literature. And I can't even deal with a regular woman let alone such complicated ones.

The type that would be great for me, don't even begin to raise my pulse in the slightest. Zero interest. They would end up friend zoned by me, if it weren't for the fact that they bore me too much to hang out with. Which makes no sense cause they are nice.


That's what you get if a single mother raises her child on lies an drama.. Remarries 3 times and throws guilt trips every other day. I only got out of it by moving to a different country..