A divorce question

[rwest]

Because they have a child together, it is very likely he will still be in your lives, so it might be better to try and work something out rather than evicting him.

Not knowing anything about the guy, maybe you could have a “heart to heart” with him and possibly help him get an apartment or something even if it means paying a few months out of your own pocket.

[sc_rufctr]

(No understanding of US divorce or property law)

Someone has to say it: The guy may want 50% of the house. This exact situation would be a real problem in Aus. The child only complicates things further. He could argue "the house was theirs" and was gifted to them. I really hope I'm wrong.

[LWJ]

On the insurance question. Why not leave it insured as a rental? It isn't particularly costly. I am confused here - what is the objective?

On a different note, good luck. Sorry you and your S-daughter have this crap in your life.

[otto_kretschmer]

Don't get involved in other people's relationships, even your step daughter. Maybe especially your step daughter.

Stop rescuing people and playing the white knight.

[rockfan4]

Originally Posted by LWJ

On the insurance question. Why not leave it insured as a rental? It isn't particularly costly. I am confused here - what is the objective?

I was hoping to lower the cost. I haven't received the bill yet for this year, but I know it won't be good. The Iowa house is less than half the assessed value of my house, yet in previous years it cost more to insure. I was thinking the reason was that it was a rental, but maybe it is just where it is.

As far as him landing on his feet, he's got a mother, father, brother and grandparents all living in the area. Plenty of people to help him out. If none of them will have him, maybe the woman he admitted to sleeping with can put him up, or his other baby mama. He has a kid who is probably about 15 now with another woman, but he has no part in their lives other than child support.

[rockfan4]

Originally Posted by otto_kretschmer

Don't get involved in other people's relationships, even your step daughter. Maybe especially your step daughter.

Stop rescuing people and playing the white knight.

I never said I wanted to rescue her. Others here are advocating that we rush there and put her up in another place. She's a grown woman and can take care of herself. If she has a question about options for getting him out of the house, I'd like to give an informed answer.

Thanks for the info about the 3 day no rent eviction. If it comes to that, hopefully we can use the same lawyer or law firm she's using for the divorce. If not, I'm sure I can find one.

[LWJ]

To OP on the insurance question.

I would call the agent and ask why it is more costly? Make them do a little work for you. You may be able to fix this with very little effort.

[Racerbvd]

Originally Posted by rockfan4

No, not my divorce.

After almost 5 years of marriage, my step-daughter has seen what her mother saw the moment she met the guy. He's no good.

When their daughter was born, I made the decision I didn't want my granddaughter to grow up in a s**thole, so we bought a house for them to live in. They're supposed to write us a check every month to cover expenses, but that doesn't always happen. But that's not the issue.

She (my step-daughter) wants him out of the house. He won't accept the divorce papers from her, so she's having him served today. If I understand things, that still wouldn't force him out of the house, she would have to obtain a restraining order against him for that to happen. As far as we know, he's never been physically abusive toward her, but plenty of verbal abuse. Am I right, or at what point does he have to leave the house?

Related question- we have State Farm, and they would only insure the house as a rental. Since it's family living there, is there any insurance that would cover the house as a second home? When we visit we stay in a hotel, not at the house.

Thanks.

Verbal abuse is mental abuse, so it definitely counts.
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