depends. you guys are all in loving relationships. what if your wife was a raving lunatic, and you only staying with her because of the kids or you dont want to give up half? being chinese, i know lots of couples that stay together for the lamest reasons. most of it revolves around "how it looks" to others.

me, if i was married, i wouldnt cheat at all. i am not married now, and i live with my girl. the only cheating happening, is with my car. clean living!


Is a lap-dance considered cheating?

Good points, Cliff. In the Catholic church just thinking (or lusting) of another woman is a sin...and probably considered cheating in a way. Lap dancing will probably get ya 30 lashes :D

"A man is as faithful as his options."
-Chris Rock

Concentric, you're almost right. Screwing around will cost you everything if you are a man. If you are woman you still get to keep the house and kids, while some poor bastard is paying most of his net salary to his "former family" -not of his own doing.

If there is reincarnation I hope I come back with a vagina and big t--s!!That way I'll always get what I want, have a house, be finacially set and most of all never really accept responsibilty for any of my actions.


The legal system is never on the mans side. That 2 inch square area of real estate is the most overpriced and overated parcel of land in the entire world!!

Cost to much to get caught. I'd loose half of everything I own. Including the P-car and child Then I'd have to troll the singles seen or visit the bunny ranch up near Reno. At least now I get to have free sex whenever I want, and don't have to wory about alamony payments. :0)
Much cheaper to stay married once you've done it. Oh, she also cleans the house.

Philip, LMAO. I've got that dvd, bigger and blacker.

I think it really depends if you can live with yourself. I've known some who don't care or "have had it happen to them by the other person, so why is it wrong it i do it?"

Its a moral issue, and shows how much you respect yourself, but mostly, how much you respect your partner.

Right at this moment, I am literally surrounded (say in a circle of about a half mile) by about 10,000 women aged 18-22. With those kind of odds, it has been and would be a no-brainer, except that I'm happily married.

They know how to grow them in SoCal, that's for damn sure.

Actually I could, but won't.

I had this happen once. A groupie came up to me one day several years ago. Cute blonde with D cups, she saw me on TV and was mezmarized. She wanted to follow me around and meet the aliens, of course I had to listen to her demo tape as she was a rock singer.

Out of nowhere she suddenly says "I'll suck your 'member' let's go to a hotel, I know you have a GF" I was floored she said it. Sure it was tempting but I have morals.

#1. I don't cheat even if I can get away with it.
#2. I don't screw chicks that channel entities even if I'm single.
#3. She could have been paid by the CIA to blackmail me, was wired and the white van across the street taking pics to send to GF later to shut me up.

So I went home, told the GF, she got pissed for me telling her. Later she was happy (I think) that I was so brutally honest.

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If one is in a dysfunctional relationship, the damage to the kids are greater than if raising a child in a stable one-partent home.

IMO this is no excuse for cheating...get out...then find someone who can provide stability and love.

Could not do it. My lovely bride is nearly perfect. The grass couldn't be greener right where I am. Think about it, she had a p-car when I met her.

I have a friend who married a totally knock out chick. Before they got married, she was always interested and got pregnant by him. They got married and everything stopped. She never was interested after that, he always initiated otherwise nothing would take place, even on romantic vacations to Europe. This was 20 years ago. She has lived in the guest bedroom for the last 7 years. It is a constant source of irritation and stuggle between them. If he as much as is caught looking at grid girls he suffers hell. She is a good mom and puts the kids first. Don't know where he ranks.

Not making excuses for anyone, but sometimes the guy who cheats does not get fed at home.

indigowhale, If that happened in reverse (the guy cuts off the girl, it happens, you know), would it be ok for the woman to cheat so she can get some?

depends. you guys are all in loving relationships. what if your wife was a raving lunatic, and you only staying with her because of the kids or you dont want to give up half? being chinese, i know lots of couples that stay together for the lamest reasons. most of it revolves around "how it looks" to others.

If the relationship is not working then get out. Then both of you are free to act as you wish but IMHO there is no excuse for messing around while married, period!

Not all of us are in "loving relationships" all the time (unless my cat counts) but being able to look myself in the mirror in the morning means alot. I divorced 5 years ago after 11 years of marriage and did not start spending time with women again until the paperwork was final. Call me old fashioned but with this man my upper brain is a bit stronger than my so called "lower one."

As well I want a woman who makes me smile, laugh and keeps me warm inside and out all the time, not just in the bedroom. You usually do not find this at a bar or in the backseat of a car.

Joe A

No way, I love my wife too much!!

If you are in a crap relationship and are hating life, own up to it and get a divorce. Then you can play the field to your hearts content. But don't make the whole process betrayal-filled by sampling the menu before hand.

My father could not keep his d**k in his pants. Ended up crushing my mom, alienating my sister and I and now he does not know even know his grandchildren. No fling-sex on the planet is worth that in my mind.

Cool Chick, I like your lingo "get some" especially from a chick...LOL!

No, I think it is only fair like someone said, once the relationship is dysfunctional, and my friend's is the epitomy of dysfunctional, to call it quits and once the D is final to find someone compatible in values--and X drive. I also have a girlfriend in the same dilemma, and I have given her that advise. She is getting elective surgery and should get prospects quite easy, but the damage inside is significant. The kids also suffer the brunt of the problems in both cases and are socially handicapped.

Never seen a guy quit giving it to a girl. Unless she packs on an extra 100 pds, or 3 more chins.

Yes, sexual dysfunction does happen to some males.....

And the woman doesn't even need to be ugly.

Friends that have gone through stuff would agree with the exception of a woman whose spouse alternated.

Cool Chick?

Yes, sexual dysfunction does happen to some males..... And the woman doesn't even need to be ugly.

Good one CC. Do believe that he had it coming...

I had the same thing happen years ago when my tongue got numb... wore off thank God!

Joe A