Question for those of you with daughters...

LeeH · 07-11-2005, 06:48 AM

How do you handle it when some guy can't seem to take his eyes off of your daughter? My wife and I were in a mall food court and a guy sat right next to us to eat. He kept looking over at my 5 year old. He was sitting right next to her, so it was very obvious. The first time or two I blew it off, but after about the fifth lingering stare I was about make a scene.

He caught my eye (and expression, I'm sure) and quickly looked away but still glanced over a few more times before leaving. I figured she was safe and it wouldn't help her out if I confonted him as it would have been ugly.

I'm a bit concerned that as she matures I'm going to have to take anger management classes to keep from clobbering guys like that.

stomachmonkey · 07-11-2005, 07:13 AM

I know how you feel. Was at a party recently where some guy took, to me, an unnatural interest in my 2 year old son. You don't know if you are being paranoid or not.

Personally I think it's safest to assume everyone is a creep.

I have the same problem with my 5 yr old daughter. She is very interesting to speak with and actually quite entertaining to observe. Very mature and intelligent for a 5 yr old.

It's common for here to become the center of attention very quickly so people interacting with her is not unusual to me. But I keep a very close watch anyway.

KevinP73 · 07-11-2005, 07:17 AM

I may not be the best person here to give advice (may soon be facing charges for assaulting a minor who made threats to my 14 yo) But anytime someone shows ANY interest in one of my girls I'll make sure they are aware that I've noticed them and I'll put myself between them and my girls. I've even changed seats on the plane when I felt the need.
There may not be a need to make a scene but your kids safety comes first with NO exceptions.

Moses · 07-11-2005, 07:22 AM

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Originally posted by stomachmonkey

Personally I think it's safest to assume everyone is a creep.

Absolutely.

EdT82SC · 07-11-2005, 08:02 AM

With the creeps out there these days we have to watch out for our boys as well. Trust nobody. I found out as an adult from a long time friend that our boy scout troop master had molested him, and some of the other boys in the troop. My father always came on the camp outs so I was safe. I intend to always go along on any outings or trips to watch out for my kids.

targa911S · 07-11-2005, 09:11 AM

Get used to it if your daughter is a looker. It was hard for me at first, and stupid me finally one day realized why I only got great service when she was with me! it's all part of being a parent and there is a fine line between being protective and an embarrassing pain in the a$$.

dd74 · 07-11-2005, 09:18 AM

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Originally posted by targa911S
...and there is a fine line between being protective and an embarrassing pain in the a$$.

...that's a fine line I am always willing to cross.

djmcmath · 07-11-2005, 09:43 AM

I do a lot of work with criminal-types, people being separated from the Navy for various charges. I never would have believed the vast number of people who are involved in child pornography, child sexual abuse, molesting little kids, etc. Every day, I see people who have made decisions that impacted some child's life forever. There are children who will never be the same because their parents didn't ask the obvious questions. I fully agree with you parents who have decided to aggressively protect your kids.

pwd72s · 07-11-2005, 09:57 AM

So, enjoying pics like these
Innocent Daughter One Day, Harley Babe the Next!
qualifies one as a potential child molestor? I agree with being careful, but sheesh...I'd think most "normal" people simply enjoy seeing children having fun.

vash · vash's Garage

in my world, there is no such thing as a five year old looker!

i would have switched seats with her. i know this "special" guy...aw eff it with being PC. the dude is retarded. he likes them young. he actually lives next door to my girlfriend's parents. he got busted for going to the local swimming pool. he would play with the kids, but an alert mother noticed he had a boner, while tossing the kids around. i was visiting when the cops came over to confiscate his computer. it wasnt pretty. he got probation for child porn. i would still see him pull his scooter over, and watch little girls. i made it my mission to pull my truck in between him and the girls and tell him to ride is happy a$$ away. one night, my gfriend's phone rang, and it was the pervs bro. he needed help to fix a computer. apparently he was housesitting, and the perv came over and surfed. he turned the homepage to kiddie porn and the bro panicked. the owners were on the way back from the airport. the perv is now in prison. i dont know why.

no way i let my guard down with my kids, i hope to have.

KevinP73 · 07-11-2005, 10:08 AM

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Originally posted by pwd72s
So, enjoying pics like these
Innocent Daughter One Day, Harley Babe the Next!
qualifies one as a potential child molestor? I agree with being careful, but sheesh...I'd think most "normal" people simply enjoy seeing children having fun.

I think it's a matter of degree's. If I were close to Mike and his family and were sitting around the front yard having a BBQ and a beer, watching his kids would be fine and acceptable. But if I were just driving by and stopped to watch, I'd expect to get shot at.
Where you draw the line is up to the parent NOT the stranger.

targa911S · 07-11-2005, 10:15 AM

let me clarify that I am not talking about a 5 year old here. People that are stimulated by "babies" should be castrated immediatly. But when your "little girl" is all grown up, you can only offer guidance and enforce rules. And yes there IS a fine line between the Protective and PITA parent.

vash · vash's Garage

i hear you. all hot women have dads.

David · David's Garage

Besides protecting your children, be sure to explain the dangers to them. My son's in scout and at the cub scout and boy scout level there is a pullout from the handbook on child abuse and molestation. For a boy to receive their first rank, they must go over the pullout with their parents. It's a bit uncomfortable discussing some of it, but it's better than something happening because you didn't.

targa911S · 07-11-2005, 10:26 AM

Man it's tough sometimes when we are out together to not just slap some guy when I see him eyeballing her. Of course she's 29. But hey I guess it's payback for all the other guys daughters I eyeballed in my day. payback time. I consider the fact that she could be a sow like my exwife and then I would not have that problem..but she got my genes instead! :-)

Purrybonker · 07-11-2005, 01:28 PM

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Originally posted by stomachmonkey

Personally I think it's safest to assume everyone is a creep.

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Originally posted by Moses
Absolutely.

Yes boys and girls, fear is always the rational response... otherwise all that gun control nonsense just starts to make sooo much sense.

And we just can't have that, now can we?

dd74 · 07-11-2005, 01:32 PM

Do you have kids, Purry?

Moses · 07-11-2005, 01:39 PM

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Originally posted by Purrybonker
Yes boys and girls, fear is always the rational response... otherwise all that gun control nonsense just starts to make sooo much sense.

And we just can't have that, now can we?

If you would apply a lesser standard for your kids, they deserve better parents.

nostatic · nostatic's Garage

if you don't have kids, you cannot begin to understand. period.

stomachmonkey · 07-11-2005, 02:41 PM

I had kids later in life. I'm 40 with a 5 and 2 year old. Not really that abnormal but the truth is I was scared 5hitle55.

Never really liked kids enough to REALLY want them.

Now that I have them I can't wait to get up in the morning to see what they will do next.

I can't begin to describe how I feel when I look at them, the emotions are the strongest that I've EVER felt.

I never in my life dreamed that I had the capacity to love anything as strongly as I do my children.

Mess with them and it's the last thing you will ever do. That's a promise.