hmm...I think it's official

[nostatic]

Well, papers were filed 6 months and one day ago, and the petition (and response) said settlement was TBD. So I suppose as of today I'm officially divorced. Still have to iron out a few financial details though. But there ya go.

Not sure what to say beyond that. It sucks and its great. Kinda like life.

And so we push on...

[yasir]

Congrats son & don't you ever make that mistake again

[red-beard]

That's right, don't make that mistake again. Do it right next time!

1st for love
2nd for money
3rd for keeps

[cantdrv55]

Don't know whether to congratulate you or not. I'm sure it's all for the best though if you're OK with it. Take care.

[gassy]

You're not alone...be a good dad, which you are. You're a better dad than I--you have a SIG!!! Just sending support. When I left the courtroom after my divorce I cried like a baby in my car...so glad it was over...sorry that it ended the way it did. Especially with 2 young kids involved. Difficult mix of emotions.
Christian.

[nostatic]

Well, as far as I can tell our son is doing better than ever. I'm much more adept at being a full-time dad with part-time custody in a separate house.

3rd time is a charm...but I'm gonna wait on that one for a bit...

[craigster59]

The first step, the first breath..A New Life. Best of luck to you on turning the corner.

[genrex]

This is very interesting to me.

But I don't understand -- can a divorce actually be "final" if the financial details are still TBD?

[HardDrive]

As a child of divorced parents, I can tell you that nothing is ever quite final. Kids need to go to college, kids get married, kids have kids...the other parent is always out there somewhere on the horizon.

[tabs]

Sorry that it didn't work out.

[starlifter1]

Believe me, It was the best thing she ever did for me. Its amazing how you can feel with someone that cares AND

[M.D. Holloway]

nostat - this is one of the more difficult things you will experience next to a close friend passing on or getting fired from your job.

Stay strong brotha...remember, you have us chuckleheads to dump on. Feel free to rant and ramble when ever you feel like it.

[dd74]

Now don't start doing something rash, like dating men.

[DonDavis]

Well, I am also not sure which to say so I'll just say
"Congratulations, that's too bad."

And what can I say about Calvin. That is a very cool kid. It was great to finally meet you both. I wish we had more time. Maybe you yahoos will come out to the Valley of the Sun someday?

[nostatic]

yeah it was funny because at class tonight someone said, "oh so it's final." To which my reply was, "with kids, it is never final." Luckily things have been amicable so far, and both of us are putting the boy first.

And funny you should mention getting fired. I actually got effectively reorg'd out of my 5+ year position as of the first of the year. I'm now in a fixed-term 50% position (until Sept.), with a proposal out to cover the other 50% of my salary at another institute, but that is still up in the air. First time I've been underemployed since...hmm...since the lost years ending '83.

I'd like to avoid the trifecta, so none of you guys are allowed to pass away.

dd, I want to avoid rashes, so I'll follow your advice.

[dd74]

Don - sent you a pm.

Todd - you'll do fine, if you aren't already doing fine.

[livi]

I am rather closing in on my second divorce.

Typical how the need to do just about anything in order to feel one being a good dad is reinforced after a divorce.

My experience and suggestion, hence, DONīT let anything/anybody get in your way being the best dad you can be.

I let "somebody" sidestep my parental needs for a while. Life felt hell. Kicked "somebody" out. Now life is grand.

From what I gathered from your posts you have the qualities needed. Donīt let nobody take that away.

[Jim Richards]

Best wishes for a smooth future, Todd.

[Rick Lee]

Nostatic, does this mean you can get that venetian blue Carrera back?

Seriously, as someone who's had one near miss (broken off engagement) and whose current gf is itching for a ring, I am curious as to what some you divorcees have gone through. What warning signs did you ignore before the marriage and how long did it take to realize how things were gonna end? I have bad role models, as my folks have been madly in love since they met around 1959 at the age of 14. They're still like teenagers about each other. I don't see many of my friends like that with their spouses. What to avoid?

[Rodeo]

Originally posted by Rick Lee
I am curious as to what some you divorcees have gone through. What warning signs did you ignore before the marriage ***

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