Neighbors - Uncomfortable
 

My neighbors across the street moved in about six months after I did. They don't have any kids. From what I gather they dated for about 4 years and got married two years ago...

The guy and I are casual friends. We'd often wander over to the other's garage with two beers in hand to chat if the other was around. I would initially have described them as a barfly couple.

The fall after they moved in, we all gave a triathlon a try for fun. The neighbor-wife changed big time. She trained hard during the winter/spring/summer. She had some sort of chart with the pictures of all of the women who beat her with X's through them. The next year at the triathlon, she won her class. Everyone else in the group (myself included) did about the same. She started doing more triathlons, and duathlons, and marathons. She was gone almost every weekend doing some competition.

The neighbor-guy stayed the same person.

This fall, when discussing the triathlon, the neighbor-guy informed me that he was not going to attend as he and his wife were breaking up. He moved out about two months later. The very next weekend, some new guy moves in--I recognize him from the triathlon!!!

So now, I'm in an awkward place. I don't want to start a war with my neighbors, but it's painfully obvious what has happened. I don't approve of the behavior, but most of all, I don't want to betray my friendship with the neighbor-guy by appearing to accept the neighbor-wife's choices. So far, I have simply gone out of my way to avoid the wife and her boy-toy. I know I won't be successful forever.

Be civil, but you don't have to be buddies, just don't show any interest in the new guy or the wife for that matter.

AND THAT IS WHY I DATE FATCHICKS!!!!

just kidding! i gotta get back to work now..........

Re: Neighbors - Uncomfortable
 

Stay the course. This is the only thing that can possibly work!

This is why I don't do triathlons....

that is lame, what a skizzy biatch

I felt like doing a Triathlon once. I laid down and the feeling went away. http://www.pelicanparts.com/support/...ool_shades.gif

Is she shaved? I bet she's shaved.....MMMMMM.....smooth........

Pictures are required...........

Another senseless triathlon-related divorce.

Why don't you suggest that the four of you go sky-diving. See if the skank starts hanging out with the 101st airborne. If she does, it wasn't the running. It's her and her perfectionist personality.

Well you can be neighborly without being friends. Say Hi when you have to, nothing more. Look on the bright side, when being in the garage with 2 beers...............they are both yours!
She will more than likely throw runner boy out in the spring, she will end up a sad,old,lonely woman if she lives like this.
On a lighter note........................is she good looking?

Take it from someone else named Marc, we're going to need to see some pic's.

BaJezus guys, can't you get past the physical thing? Just because she is serious about her body and works hard at it daily.... I mean there is more to a woman... besides she is... sweat glistening as it runs down her hot toned......

Where's the GD pics???











http://www.pelicanparts.com/support/smileys/roker.gif

You know, I don't have pics, but you guys would be disappointed (very, very disappointed) if I did. ;)

Like this?

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-4848963620616898294&q=jogging+girl&hl=en

Same sort of thing happened where my wife and I used to live. The lived behind us. I really liked the guy and his wife was ok. One day she moves him out and another guy in. She wanted to act like nothing was going on. She never got much more than a "hello" out of me after that.

Why do I get the feeeling that I'm going to have nightmares of being chased my two watermelons having a fistfight?

just bang her and be done with it

That reminds me of this one time, when I was dating this girl, and...

I think I'll go grab a beer.

(sorry, inside joke)

"if I could find my keys, we could drive out..."

Jeez, it's a neighbor and her life. I'd wander over with the 2 beers to the new guy (if I were so inclined) if he looked at all accessible. (Actually, I'd never cross my property line with a beer unless it was decided beforehand that was invited. It was just a figure of speech taken from the context.) Unless you are in a friendship with the former husband and he is coming over to your house still, it's a new day in a different month. Chances are you won't be seeing much of the former and you had nothing to do with the breakup.

Besides, what do you know about what went on behind their door? Sounds to me like she was trapped in a dead end relationship with a "barfly."

People come and people go.......mostly for the better. I say that in the sense that water seeks its own level. I'm not dissing your "former" friend. Far from it. He may wind up in a better place, too. I think the woman was a triffle compulsive and I'll bet he avoids that next time around like the plague.

DO NOT get too close to the neighbors
BECAUSE you can't get very far away from them

What Milt said. Exactly.

Ain´t Judgment day yet.

Is the name of the woman neighbor "Mary" by any chance?

Let me describe her: Fake blond. She doesn't like other women. She has an obsessive personality. She is very sexual and is always "looking around". She is not into make up.

How close am I?

I agree with the you never know what was going on behind closed doors. Could have been a verbally abusive relationship and that's why she was so focused on training and working out. If they were "barflys" then they probably had very little in common and when she found her new one they had a shared interest as well. Were they married or just "living in sin" as my dad would say. Either way there's nothing you can do. I'd be cordial but not go out of my way. However that's just me. We've been fortunate to have some really good neighbors, and some real whack jobs too. Freaking hermits now, who you never see. The garage door goes up they pull out of the garage and go to work, come home garage door goes up they pull inside never to be seen again. I'd be cordial at least, no sense in being rude.

Heck, you can live on the same block for 20 years and not know your neighbors. In our older neighborhood we share house keys with two neighbors and nothing but nods and waves with many others. I think it is the age difference as some are 80 and some are 30.

My triathlon is hitting McDonalds, Taco Bell, and Burger King in the same day. It's really a work out. but I've successfully completed it..... too many times.

Believe it or not this exact scenario played out with a friend and his wife (Triathlons and all). Only difference...he had three kids with her.

A married guy here at work started banging his triathalon training partner about ten years ago. They actually competed as a team; he swam and rode, she ran. There was some local deal that did it that way. Boy was he ever motivated to train. I was still riding a lot back then so, we rode almost every day together.

Then his wife found out. Very nice lady, but a homebody couch-potato type, starting to get a little chunky. So he did the right thing and stopped seeing his triathalon partner, and had to stop competing to avoid running into her. He is still married now, ten years later, but he's a big fat middle-aged slob now. Still a great guy, but the incentive to train is gone. His partner has been through several more since him. He does look back fondly at the days he was her "boy toy", though.

No, I expect that she is one of these crazy driven people, like my ex-wife, Mary. If she had focused that energy into our marriage and her work, she wouldn't have been fired and we might still be together.

My ex-boss was 46 when he married the 23 year old snipe that was working for him. His ex-wife was big and fat, the new girl worked out a lot. When the new girl got all she could take (almost ten years) she split with a guy she met at a triathlon.

The old guy had Polio as a child, walked with a limp and was a diabetic, not like he could join her in her sport.

Just another story, no point.

People, women...have a way of rationalizing things such as this so that they do not feel guilty. Often, it comes in the form of blaming the former lover for his "faults" which drove her to seek another. This allows her to escape the gravity of the situation easier.

Probably what happened was that this guy was around her during the triathlons, which of course led to her further interest in them and being gone during the weekends etc. You could replace "triathlon" with just about any type of activity and this scenario has probably played out in the past in this world.

My advice would be to just leave it alone. Dont be friendly other than a nod or corresponding wave across the street. No social activity and certainly no discussions with them or other neighbors about their business. Let her have her business to herself, its not your ball game.

I agree also...

As was said in a recent related thread some times people get married and then over time grow apart (develop different interests) although I don't pretend to know what happened here.

Were you friends with this lady before? If not and you don't feel comfortable with the new guy you don't have to make friends.

PS: From reading these other posts, it sounds like
Triathalons are becoming the Singles/Pickup Bars of the 00s. ;)

with some creative literary talent, we could turn this female character from a triathlete, into a "bi"athlete, and it would really take off!!:eek:

Re: Neighbors - Uncomfortable
 

You had me right up to this point...

She has natural brown hair and her name is not Mary. I've never noticed her "looking around", but she apparently was...

Great... another singles activity I can't enjoy, unfortunately I find it difficult to hit on chicks while I'm throwing up. :p

The issue is that we were social with the wife and husband before they split up. We throw a big party every summer. I'm not so comfortable having the wife and her new squeeze around, but I don't want to exclude her from activities she used to be invited to.

Thank you for the good laugh.

Lemme get this straight...

A married woman was unfaithful? And then she divorced her husband? And now she has moved in with the other man?

I need to sit down a minute. I thought I'd heard everything. ;)

Not so common here in God's country. ;)