Rudeness.
 

This morning as I walked into an elevator, I held the door open so the guy walking behind me could get in. There are only three floors in our building, (I'm on the third floor) so I asked him, "Do you want the 2nd or 3rd floor?" He barked "2". Well, it was more of an irritated grumble than a bark.

I hate rudeness. Can't stand it. So I pushed the button for the 3rd floor and stepped back. I'm sure he assumed that I pushed the button for the 2nd floor and he was mightily pissed off when we arrived at the 3rd floor. He said, "I said 2!". I looked at him and said "Next time try "Please"."

This kind of crap is getting more and more common. Last week I was going into a restaurant and held the door open for two couples. No one said "thanks". Not a word. They acted like I was their f*cking door man. I'm so tired of this.

Awesome!

Is it true that while Jesus may save, Moses will get it for you wholesale?

Here Here!

Maybe he was irritated that you didn't step back and let him press what ever button he wanted.

Kinda rude of you to control the 'button space,' ask what floor, and screw w/ him like that. :cool:

and then with the couples... Maybe the guys didn't like that you were taking away their opportunity to be the "nice guy." ...the women, well, they just didn't know you're a Doc. ;)

I usually hold the door open for people, I'm not doing it for the thanks...I do it out of kindness and humility for being as fortunate as I am.

Ohh the other thing...I can't control how other people respond, I can only tell you what I am going to do.

Years ago, I broke my ankle playing baseball and was on crutches for 2 months. I was amazed at how many times people would come up behind me, go around through swinging doors and let the door come swinging back to where I had to "shoulder block" it to keep from getting knocked over. There's alot of d*ckheads in this world, that's for sure.

One more reason why I like living in the midwest. Outside of Chicago, "please" and "thank you" are compulsory.

I hold doors open for people all the time. Around here, they "usually" do say Thanks or Thank You.

If they don't say anything, I sometimes say, "You're welcome." and then some will say Thank You, some will just look confused.

Other times I say, after they pass through the door, "Excuse me." and hold out my hand like I am looking for a tip. They usually look kind of confused and I say, "A simple thanks would be sufficient, but I will accept money."

It's easy to be rude to rude people.

The only thing that bothers me more than the rudeness, is the hyper-PC "I'm offended by..." reponse so frequently heard. I'm not saying you did this, but it seems to be used alot to establish some moral high ground. These folks are *******s, but they don't owe you anything for your actions, thats all.

Good point tabs. You can't control other people being pricks, only yourself. I figure if you hate such behavior, you have to try and be above it yourself. Karma and all that.

Things are a bit better in the midwest, but we still have our share of a-holes. I have to say though, when I go elsewhere, I do notice a difference (not in a good way).

Scott, the guy was blatantly obnoxious. Who gets a pass for that?

I don't use elevators for anything below floor #5. But when I do use the elevator, I don't bother asking other which floor they want. Everyone likes pushing buttons, so I let them push theirs.

Good going. That takes guts, but I doubt he'll forget the lesson. Well done.

truer words were never spoken

I hate rudeness too. A few weeks ago our neighbor's friends came over and swam in our pool (our neighbor asked first). Mind you, I was standing there watching the kids, making sure everyone was safe and after they were done, none of the kids bothered to say "thank you" except my next-door neighbors. Non of those kids are welcome to swim in our pool again except my neighbor's as they had the manners to say "thank you". Whatever happened to "thank you", "you're welcome" and "please"?

sounds like this guy pushed Moses' button(s).

Here's an etiquette question -- If you're following someone through two sets of doors, and they hold both sets for you do you say "thanks" at the first, the second or both (an instant later than you've said "thanks" for the first)?

I usually go with the first set, and let those regards carry me through the 2nd.

JP

Uh Oh, you got me started on elevator etiquette:

I was in Laughlin a couple of weeks ago staying at a casino hotel. Three times during that stay I was trying to exit an elevator and had to stop because some tard was in a hurry to get on the elevator and pushed his way on before anyone could get off.
Don't people realize that you are supposed to let everyone get off the elevator that needs to get off before you get on? How about the tards that stand right in front of the door waiting for the elevator so that when the doors open you have to squeaze through them to get off?

It all seems so common sense simple but some people just don't have a clue.
If it were my casino I'd put uip a sign that says
THESE ELEVATORS ARE RESERVED FOR INTELLIGENT LIFE. ALL OTHERS USE THE STAIRS


whew, I feel better now.

You should have pushed "2" on your way out and said, "There you go!"

SGB and Tabs have it right. Kindness and humility require no repayment.

You know those automatic opening doors...

Why is it that people just go on thru, w/o verbalizing a "thank you mystery engineer who designed, mystery architect who specified, owner who bought, mystery power company that powers... thank you, thank you...." ?

Freaking inconsiderate rude people. :cool:

I go nuts when I call a business and I say "good morning" and they respond in such a way that tells me they would rather that I didn't call.

A simple, pleasant greeting means a lot to me. Are they that pressed for time?


KT

I would normally give a "Thank you" at the first and follow up with "Thanks again" or just "...and again" and a smile at the second.

My Dad will sometimes thank a guy holding a door open with;

"You're a Gentlemen - not many of us left"

I like Tabs' opinion. But I don't think people are deliberately being rude - they're just ignorant.

What about people carrying on a cell phone conversation in the toilet? I find that incredibly rude. I don't even fully approve of guys starting a conversation with you while standing at the urinal - it just seems wrong for some reason.

You're not the first engineer to have "comprehension" issues. ;)

When stepping out on 3# floor you should have pushed the button for 1# floor. :D

In my experience most people do acknowledge and say, "Thanks"

When I said TWO I meant TWO *********!!!!!!!!

Not Really he! he! but I think I have lost many a date in my life for saying yes and no ma'am.
Some chicks just don't get it........

No doubt.

I think the decline in manners is becoming widespread; the bicyclist who balances himself against my car at the stoplight, the people who forget to say "please" and "thank you" to servers in restaurants, people who are greeted by strangers with "good morning" and return a blank stare. It's getting pretty bad.

Two tidbits here:

#1 To Moses's point above about servers in restaurants; one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received is that "A person might treat you well, but if they act rudely or disrespectfully to the waiter/waitress they are trash." In my experience this has been accurate 100% of the time.

#2 I have a clear memory of visiting a local restaurant (fairly nice... not jacket and tie but definitely "dress up") when I was about 15 (about 1995). I pulled my mother's chair out for her and as soon as she had taken her seat a man stood up from a neighboring table and shook my hand and expressed the same sentiments as Aerkuld's dad: "You're a Gentlemen - not many of us left."

Hmmm maybe its just where U live that people are RUDE. BTW don't U live in the Bay Area...lots of self asorbed Liberals up in that neck of the woods...OHH I get it they are tooo busy trying to save us from ourselves to show any politiness. Well because they are tryiung so hard to save us, they should be forgiven their transgressions....Ouppps can't say "forgiven" around them...might upset them and set them off on a tirade about religion or sumthin...can't do that now...might be rude.

My dad opened the door for my mom once and another guy commented to him, "That ain't your wife!" My dad said, "Oh yes she is. And my first one too!"

Humility? Man, I love you Tabby! Pure comedy gold.

Don't you guys find it as bad, if not worse, in traffic? Quite a few times I've let someone turn left or pull out of a parking lot in front of me, and they could stare directly at me and not wave or at least mouth a "thank you."

I humbly submit to all who care that I've always held the door for people. Sometimes they say thanks, sometimes not. It doesn't matter if they do, it's just manners, and the way I was taught to behave.

What gets my goat is checkout people who don't give me the time of day while I spend my money. I don't ask much, just a hello. My usual response is to remain silent throughout the entire transaction, and as I silently prepare to leave, give them a good 2 or 3 second stare right between the eyes. I like to think that both of us know at that moment what they did was wrong.

I know that is just being as rude as they are, but I can be a real p**ck with the right provocation, manners or no.

Yeah, I can't stand that when I am giving them all of my food stamps and they can't even give me a simple have a good day sir.....geez what is this world coming to.........

I do feel bad when I forget my manners and maybe forget to hold the door for someone in a hurry, but I usually tell them sorry.... or at the very least feel bad that I did not take the initiative... that is what I feel seperates good people from bad people... bad people show no remourse for their short comings while good people make the honest attempt to change their behavior for positive results in the future.....

I hate it when................................

You’re walking down a hall in an office building. There is someone walking towards you. Only two of you in the hall. As you meet, the other person either look away at their watch or and something in their hands just to avoid eye contact. I usually say," How are you doing?" if no response, I follow up with a " Hope your doing well???."

I'm a "please and thank you" and hold the door guy, most people respond in kind. If not, they look like an ass, so I don't really care. Good manners, (like Moses's), are really an expression of who you are and your consideration for fellow travelers on this earth.

That said, I live for truly rude people. My attitude is that I am nice to nice people, and mean people had better run when they see me coming. I went to France hoping to meet some of the proto-typical rude frogs, but they never really materialized. I was looking forward to some good old-fashioned monkey-slapping, but everyone was pretty cool. It was right after 9/11, though. Might be different now.

What makes you think they'd be able to read the sign? :eek:

Randy

I just say "thanks again". Usually doesn't happen that way for me. It's a little goofy when one party opens the first door and the second opens the second door. In the south, usually if I "come in second" as a result of holding the door, the first party will insist I be waited on first. Sort of embarrassing.

Is it a nationwide practice that people pull over to the side of the road when a funeral procession is passing from the opposite direction? That one kinda suprised me when it happened on a divided highway (not unlimited access like an expressway).