relationship -- when is it time to walk ?
 

Been with my GF for about a year.

I was wondering since I have been having this feeling that she isn't putting all that she can into the relationship (comparing beginning to present) and with the past few arguements, that maybe this isn't the "right one".

When do/did you feel it was time to pull the plug and move on?

lolo, and I have all kinds of "comments" for the signle guys :rolleyes:

Had many relationships with women in my days, a few selected "GFs" among them.
The minute I knew the GF wasn't wife material it was good-bye.

I think I fell in love with my wife on about the 3rd day of meeting her.
Personal restraint made me do the due diligence for about a year, but I "KNEW" she was the one........ and I was right. Best darn thing that ever happened to me!

So I guess I'm saying to say bye, bye sweetheart.
Cheers Buddy

I suppose it could take you a little while to realize she's the one but typically I think you know right away when she isn't.

Crazy chicks do it better.

as soon as the Sex decreases... sex, frequency of it, desire for it for both people is
a good barometer of the health of a romantic relationship. When a woman is not interested
in a man, she will not want to be with him....that logic usually doesnt apply to the man who will
usually be with the woman, however he may be more tired than usual or not quite as responsive
or he is involved with a different woman etc. use the sex barometer...

time to go when you are away from her and you LIKE it. that, or she does things that you just shouldn't do to someone you care about - cheat for instance.

rjp

If in doubt, move 'em out!

I think you have the answer above. It is time when you start asking "when is the right time.....?"

Trust your instinct. "He who does not learn from history is doomed to repeat it."

Sorry, just my opinion.



Maybe I am the fortunate, or the most unfortunate, guy. But, with me, as soon as I see a woman, I could immediately determine if she is a) for show, b) for a wife and mother of my kids, c) for fun, or d) companion.

when the F ing you're getting isn't worth the F ing you're getting ( or not getting as the case may be)

relationship -- when is it time to walk ?

When you're away for a week or so, neither of you phones, and you feel really free.

Ladies and Gentlemen...."It's KICKOFF Time"..as my brother used to say when he ended his GF relationships....

It is time to walk when you ask the question. Seriously. I never asked myself that question with my wife.

BUT--- if you aren't looking for a wife, and the sex is currently good, you can stay with her until the sex suffers.

If you are young, best to be playing the field and enjoying as much $^% as you can.

Now if you are older and ready for a relationship, end it immediately. I agree with previous advise that if she is not wife material, you are just wasting your time.

Then again if she is a porn star and has some special skills, you might want to keep her as a booty call!!

Life is short! ?Don't waste it with the wrong people!!

when in doubt, there is no doubt.

if it's just a question of "when" at this point --- when it's convenient. Sex, another target, etc., as long as you're not stringing her along or expect her to behave any "better" than you are.

JP

I knew it was over when the cops told me to get away from that crazy b*tch.

In your case, if the spark is gone, the spark is gone. No sense trying to make something happen that isn't there. It sounds as if you know what to do, but simply need reinforcement. You have it. :)

+1 to not waste too much time on non-wife material, unless the object is sex and only sex. :D

BTW, like Rob, I could only manage 4 months before getting engaged and married within 6 months of meeting. We've been married for 30something years. There have been bumps, but thankfully no major potholes along the way. :)

The minute she stops swallowing - move on...

I knew it was time to move on when she took out a restraining order and bought a handgun. Last I saw of her, she was still pointing it at me as I rode away on my Harley. I sure do miss her.

Perhaps a more serious answer:

When one party tries to manage the relationship and the "give and take" disappears. A good relationship is not 50-50. It requires a lot more effort than that. Ego gets in the way and winning is everything. When this happens, any relationship; between lovers or simply friends, is doomed. Good relationships, over time, must evolve into more than sex.

It's time to walk when you start asking strangers on an internet message board about it.

It's time to walk as soon as she starts to talk. That excludes moaning of course.

But really, if your asking yourself the question then the time was to walk has already passed.

When You think maybe it's time. Eject! Eject! Eject!
Life's to short for both of you.

Save the energy for the right one.

Heaven & Earth may crumble. You and I agree. Dead smack on!

Usually between 7:30 and 9:00 am

-e.

You need to have a talk with her - tell her what you feel or sense and ask if she feels that way. See if you can work out whatever is going on. It could be she got some bad news and didn't tell you & it is affecting her.

Or she could have a new BF...

That's why you do it at her place. You always have to leave to go back home once the nap is over.

Beat-a the feet-a

Todd :)

If this is still happening...and you have no backup, why not milk it a while longer?

It's time to walk when you let yourself into her condo late one night, quietly walk up the stairs with the lights off to slip into bed without waking her and hearing a male voice in the dark say:
DEAR, I THINK SOMEONES WALKING AROUND DOWNSTAIRS!!!!!!

Then, it's time.........

+1

Oh geez, I plus 1ed on The....

You guys are more than likely right!

hmmmm, I thought she was going to be the one and things just stopped being "give and take" during arguments. I kept thinking at those times, OMG, she sounds just like my EX! WTF??? they even used similar wording. Strange ... It made me think that maybe I'm doing something that affects women in a similar fashion ... lolo ...

I'm gonna do what RWebb suggested since that's the way I am. One last talk.

Yep, tang is gonna have to get put back on my list of things to do ;)
Wish there wasn't snow up to knees or I'd be driving my love :(

Thanks everybody !! :)

note: hopefully others will find some nuggets here for themselves too :)

The percentage of couples that actually end up in good marriages is very small. It's pretty obvious when you're in one of them and therefore, also when you're not.

Bang and walk.

word........

You mean when you get married?:D

When you ask a bunch of strangers about about it online, I'd say it's time. As was said previously, "when there is doubt, there is no doubt". Pretty sure that's a quote from DeNiro in Heat, but it's perfect to describe relationships. Never had a doubt with my wife, it took maybe 3 days together to realize that she was it for me. 2 1/2 of those days were spent questioning if this was really happening. 5 great years later, not a single regret.

I've never met the Sapp, but I wouldn't go so far as to call him a Stranger?
Talk to him just about every friggin' day!!!!
:)

You know what I mean. I consider you all friends, but wouldn't recognize you on the street. Unless you were driving that sweet Arena Red 993TT (best color by the way).

I used to be in the "you know it immediately" camp, but my current relationship has changed my perspective. I took it slow with this one and continued to date other women. I didn't think that she was "the one," but it was fun and interesting. We actually quit dating after 2 months because she had some old baggage that bugged me. A couple weeks later she initiated contact and we started seeing each other again, but I was still seeing other people, taking it slow, and not committing to anyone.

We went away for a week over xmas and everything really clicked. I still wasn't sure she was "the one" but I wasn't really interested in seeing anyone else. Now a month after that, I'm thinking she might be the one. The short story is, I don't think you necessarily know out of the gate. Some women have to grow on you, and you need to come to appreciate what they bring to the relationship.

Oh, and the sex as gotten better and better. +1000 on the sex aspect. If *you* are really into sex and she is lukewarm, move along. I've found out the hard way that people can be wired very differently wrt sex drive. If you like it a lot, you better find a partner that likes it a lot. Otherwise you are doomed as a couple.

;)

What kind of human doesn't like sex *a lot*?

If your chick doesn't like sex, she needs to go, cause she's probably an alien or a spy or something...

PS... the Arena Red 993TT might just be my favorite car on here. Can I have it when you are done with it?

Matt & Ramm have made my day ;) Thanks guys!

Two replies:
Recognizing people: truth is I have a hard time recognizing people I do know? yikes!

Sex: There's different levels of dating (for guys). Some levels involve receiving sex at the very first opportunity, no sex, no more dates. Others can be more patient, but this comes with age.

Now as a father of 4 daughters, there's definately no sex for women until marriage!

hmm, well, that would cover two ex-wives...