My neighbor went on Paxil. Made her ***** crazy. If she drank, she always ended up naked.

Yep.

OK, does anyone have any "positive" stories or is it a guaranteed thing that the wife goes temporarily insane, sex becomes a thing of dreams and drugs are a requirement?

Dennis

Why do I have a feeling that this thread is enlightening (in a bad way) for many of us?

Hell if that was the case for me, I would be buying cases of booze. I feel like the a new man tonight. I actually got lucky. First time in a long time. Got a massage with a happy ending. Yeeha! Don't know what got into her (well actually I do) but I hope it's a new trend.

Does your wife know?

Rim shot, cymbal splash!

my wife is 1/2 German, 1/2 Italian. Redheaded! and has M.S.

throw that together and add in synthetic hormones sometimes it can be a wild ride.

I don't look forward to "the change"

2 out of 3 at my address.

Ian

I just wonder if I am ever gonna get my friend back. I know people change and the "change" is very powerful in women, but, from those who have been through it all the way, does their become a stabilizing point? I mean does it ever get back to feeling like you have a wife again and not just someone to share the bills with?

Yes. It does 'normalize'. At least it did in our house. With meds, because there were other issues. But for a while it was a near-constant Attack of the Banshee.

Ian

No periods!

Yeah it gets better. Takes a while. Getting her off Paxil and it's side effects was far worse than the change itself.

And remember there is also a huge psychological component mixed in. Menopause = biological purpose is over. It is a time when they need a lot of emotional support. And as for sex, it is totally up to you to make them feel sexy again. Every day.

Ian

My wife has being going though this as well (hot flashes, sleeping on top of the covers, mood swings, anger, etc). The problem is, she doesnt think there is anythng 'wrong' with her. I WISH I could get her on some meds..

No one thinks there is anything wrong with them. Most people are wrong.

You know what... you may have just stumbled across the answer to a question that has been puzzling me for years.

I went to a car show at one of those small town festivals (Great Falls Flopeye Fish Festival in Great Falls, SC) back in the late '80's and one guy was displaying a showroom quality early '70's Super Bee. Said he had done all the work himself... it took several years. I told him how amazing it was to see... I had never seen anything like it.

He said, "It's for sale... are you interested?"

I said, "After doing all that work, how could you possibly part with it? I get attached to stuff I spend that much time on."

He said, "I'm ready to start on another one." :cool:

I'm sure you know what I'm thinking.

We may have now discovered why guys drag hopelessly shot old cars into their garage and spend years working on them every spare moment.

:eek:

Whaddaya think?

Well...

I've known my Mother-In-Law for twenty two years now and met her when she was about 40. She has gone through Menopause and I have to say that (for her at least) it wasn't too bad at all. She has always been a bit of a personality and she simply became, well...MORE of a personality. She had the hot flashes and all of that, and you had to tread a little more carefully around her, but it really wasn't a problem in the larger sense. She's now in her early sixties and is still an awesome woman. A little nutty, but in a good way. :)

It doesn't have to be the end of the world guys.

my god this is sobering to read.

I think it has suddenly hit my otherwise normal, wonderful wife.:(

To wit: last nite she was really pleasant and coquetish at the restaurant, sidled up to me and said with a twinkle in her eye "Kids are all out of town for the weekend...better go home and get some rest for when I get home..." WOOOOOHOOOOO:D

She arrives home and is ice cold and beyotchy...flips the Lifetime channel on and absolutely ignores me. I end up in the man cave (garage) with my new 9' wide projection screen surfing soft porn on late nite cable at 2:00 a.m.

This sucks.

Welcome to the club Jim. Your lucky you live in the south. Try having the windows open in the car when it's friggin' 20F. Hot, cold, hot, cold, colder, hot, cold, extremely hot. Soaking wet night sweats, dry vagina. Damn near have to feel sorry for them. The ex only got weepy I was lucky.
Look on the bright side, you only have 4-7 years of it. SmileWavy

Craziest post of the year. :eek:

This thread is really making me regret my conscious decision to never, ever, ever get married.

Your perspective is just whacked. Nothing sucks about how you spent last night.

And the upside? You didn't even have to talk to her... ;)

This thread is vidication that i have indeed made the right choices in life with regard to women. Would it be rubbing it in to state outright that i have been openly giggling at virtually every post in this thread?

PMS, menopause, the change; call it what you want. It doesn't exist, it never has, it never will. "And don't you ever, ever say that to me again or so help me God..."

I'm starting to get gay-envy... http://forums.pelicanparts.com/suppo...leys/shake.gif

Do Golden Retrievers go through this?

My cat meowed once. I got rid of it.

Only thing that concerned me was I woke up and my Johnson was orange....' guess I gotta cut down on eating Cheeto's while watchin soft porn;)

So I didn't talk to her much the following day....I acted unruffled but not overly comversant. She comes home last night and threw that cat on me like an 18 y.o. nymphomaniac. Didn't go to sleep until 6 a.m. Shhhheeesssshhhh. Not complaining, but.....

Guess I need to remember the sage advice of an old mentor: "WOMEN....foch 'em."
:cool:

LOL, there you go man. You got to watch porn all night on a screen fit for kings, then still get your funky groove on the next night, and you STILL didn't have to talk to her.

As with most things in life, it's all a matter of perspective brother. ;)

Huh.

Well my dad and step-mom are in their 60s, and while my dad would never say anything explicit, he has indicated that they still have a decent sex life.

Of all the things I DON'T want to hear from my parents......

great. just great.

isnt there a milder version we fellas go thru? Men-apause?

getting old just sucks. i had an old man tell me once, "the problem isnt that life is too short, sometimes it is too long". man was 85, and alone and sad.

Women have periods because they deserve it. Then years later, comes the pause, by this time in their lives they REALLY deserve it. Remember the old Irish saying lads, "their all whores....'cept me sainted mother!"

Can women go through the "change" at 35, cause a whole lot of this applies to my spouse.

This is known as perimenopause...can happen to women in their 30's.

The big question: Real, imagined or just another excuse to be a beyotch?:rolleyes:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/perimenopause/DS00554

Hate to resurrect this depressing thread, but I need you guys to please give some of your improoved situations, if any. I need some hope.

After some stable times bat chit crazy is setting in:eek:

My real life experience...

Wife started menopause early and still going thru it @ 46.

We still have a very active sex life.

I also work with several women who are going thru the change...

Wife and co-workers get the hot flashes and are sometimes moody (something I always mark up to just being a woman) but not insane... he11 some of the men I work with are more whack jobs that the middle age women.

For that matter some of the male posters here are more moody that my wife! :p

And some of my middle age male friends have not aged well... drugs, alcohol, unemployed... not always a gender thing.

YMMV

Hope? Your post from '09 about being hot to trot while out at dinner, then cold and distant when getting home pretty much described my last marriage. Had nothing to do with menopause. What improved my situation? Umm, divorce, followed by a string of women who actually were interested in sex.

Current g/f of nearly 3 years is 41 and pretty balanced. Hoping that the change might be reasonable with her...

Ding, ding, ding!

My wife is like... not boink? why would I want to deprive myself of that pleasure?

so THATS whats going on with TEAM KOTEX danica patrick. hmmmmmm



go daddy brings on new meaning...............like go out the door and never come back.