Why would a 24 year old want to date a 42 year old? Why would she even look in that age segment? There are generally two answers: $ and / or looking for a father figure. My experience is that such women did not have a father or only had a "present" dad when growing up.

That's my two cents - I would stay within 10 years of my own age. If that girl were 32, it would be a whole different story as 30+ is a different phase from early / mid 20s.

George

Any girl (and yes, "girl", not "woman") in her 20s is mentally unstable and has no idea what the hell she wants, no matter what she might tell you.

That said, it'll be a damn fun ride.

the real girlfriend is up in san francisco. been getting increasing irritating to get together. found myself going outwith the barrista from the local coffee shop. she's 23, i'm 39.

all my friends wives think i'm a pervert. all of her friends think i'm a pervert. she want's to go to clubs and dance. i hate that. we are just at very different places in our lives. but on the other hand, she still has that new girl straight out of college smell. she likes talking about books and politics. and can do so intelligently.

if you can still pull it, let it ride

I think he has bought in without one!!!

Sorry, if I had the fund$$$!! Only if! I wish you the best of luck, that is a VERY special and unique car. Hope it goes to a good home.
Best of luck - Yasin

Follow "YOUR" Bliss!

Screw what others think; if you're both happy, go for it; but stay the F away from my daughters!!!! All of you!!!!

We're good ;)

I married my wife when she was 30 and I was 55. We had known each other since she was 17 or 18 - so about 12 or 13 years. I was 43 when we first met, and she was after me from the very first. I was friendly only, neutral and eventually told her she should find a nice guy her age to get married to, have kids with, and be happy. She ended up marrying a 6'3" body builder and they were married for 5 years, but no kids. During that time she kept in touch with me via mail.
At the end of the 5 years, she told me she was getting a divorce, returning to the town I lived in (and where she had lived), and was going to be camping on my doorstep. I said we might be able to "go to lunch" or a movie sometimes DURING THE DAY, but that didn't last very long. Long story short, she eventually moved in with me for a year and a half, at the end of which time we got married. That was 11 years ago now.
Now I'm 66 and she is 41. I couldn't imagine being married to anyone else, and if something happened to us, I would go it alone. I supported her going to school and getting her teaching credential - and later her Master's degree. She is really happy with a career of her own, and I support her as much as I can in anything she wants to do.
She has changed some over the years, but somewhat more in a direction that brings her closer to my likes in some things. But I make sure she can enjoy her own interests. Today we went for a nice hike for about 3 miles up (with about a 1500 ft. gain in altitude) and back down in the local mountains around here. She is the best woman I've ever met, and I maybe should have married her years before.
Now, I'm not the young guy I once was, but I'm not dead yet. She understands there will be a time when I won't be able to do the things I still can. If it comes to the diaper changing situation in the future, I will take myself out of the picture permanently since that won't be any kind of life to live. I would do that anyway, married or not.
You haven't got anything to lose. If you give it a try and it doesn't work out, you'll have plenty of company with the 50% of people out there who are divorced - and most of them married people close to their ages.
We get along great and couldn't be happier. If I'd made the decision to not let her into my life, I'd be a much poorer man. Good luck with whichever way you decide.

Sooner or later everything ends. I can't really say what things will be like in 15 or 20 years. You could out live her. The reality of time is that we exist in the now.

IMO, kids keep you young, but they take a lot of energy too. Most women want kids, even if they say they don't. If you have talked about it, and you know what she wants, go for it, if you are mentally and financially well prepared for any consequence.

People on their death bed rarely regret having lived life. They regret not having done the things they wished they had.

ewave, if you like/love her and she the same... who is to deny you of your happiness to be together?

Dont think about what other people think..... who f'in cares. Just do your thing.
Life really is Short and can end at any time.

Love is good.

I say hit it while you can and enjoy your time with her. Marriage, on the other hand, is a fools game - at any age...

" How was school today honey?"...Ok

" Wanna DO IT?"......ok

End of commonality. But it will be fun while it lasts. Get a pre-nup.

Wow, this is a tough one. I agree with living your life, having fun, etc. People do change though and someone at 24 is not grown up yet. Date her, yes. Marry her soon and have kids? I wouldn't touch that one personally. But then I have kids and at 45 not sure I would want to go down that road again. Plus my 19 yo daughter would be kill me if I was dating a woman within spittin distance of her age.

One of my best friends is 50-something and his wife is late-20s. When they first started dating several years ago, we'd laugh at how clueless she was about our childhood references - "F-Troop? Combat? Those were TV shows?" - but she would laugh too. Their marriage is working great. It helps that she is the "oldest" 20-something I know - left her party-hearty days behind long ago. Also key that she doesn't want kids and neither does he.

This can't end well. If it flies, floats or f*cks, lease it.

Regardless of the age difference, 3 months is a fairly short time period. I would suggest that you both continue on for at least an additonal 10 months or so and then see how you still feel for one another .................................................. ...
.....................as Chris Rock is quoted " right now my dating representive is dating your representive, so see where things are in a year!"

So....My 22 year old daughter has been dating a 42 year old guy.
I cringe when I see them together. But i keep my mouth shut.
She really looks like she's 14.

I pray I never have daughters.

That would be a good prayer...

A guy comes home from work and finds his live-in girlfriend packing up her things.

"Why are you moving out, I thought things were going really well".

"My friends say you're a paedophile and I'm leaving you"

"WHAT?, a paedophile, you say a paedophile, now that's a big word for an eight year old.

Man, I don't see how I could roll like that @ 40 or 50... I wouldn't want my children doing that stuff, ya know?

It really is a jungle out there.

I say go for it. If you both enjoy each other what's the problem? I'm 52 my girlfriend if 37. She likes cars, football, AND sex! A piece of advice... You bess keep yourself in shape. When things start getting a bit boring after awhile those 'young' studmuffins will start looking good to her. Good luck for sure.

A buddy of mine, in his 60s, looks his age, has honest to god used this line AND it has worked for him:eek:

Now he generally uses it around bike week, but other time too and it has worked!!!

Look at the situations that breasts get us men into.

Someone should really control them! I vote myself as breast constable.

I got the memo all wrong and fell in love with a 38 year old woman at 25. Five years later, we are still together.

No mommy issues here. We are just good together.

My cousin got married at 31 to a smokin' hot former d II x country runner who'd just graduated from college. She was 23? It lasted 1.5 yrs and that's including the day their divorce was finalized.

Slammin' body, but with less maturity and sophistication than my gf's 15 y/o niece.

YMMV.

Since high school, I ended up like that, I get along the best with mature, educated women, BIOT, the biggest turn on to me is a power suite, not a Hooters outfit, but I take em as I get em, cast the net see what comes in:D

Mark, does she have any hot girlfriends? I'll be back in New England on Thursday :D

I'll certainly ask but you have to promise not to shot her ;) It is doe season no? :D
Why don't you join us on the SEMBC run this Saturday. I can give you the details.

LOL. I needed that. SmileWavy

This Sat might be tough, but I may have to be in CT next week.. I'll buy you a beer if that's the case.
Believe it or not, I can actually keep my opinions to myself on occasion ( ok a rare occasion but still LOL).

Hugh Hefner had a funny line, when he met Barbie Benton and he was in his 40s and she was 18...she said "Ive never dated anyone over 24 before...." to which Hef replied "thats OK, neither have I". :)

4 pages and no photo?

They say 7 years is maximum age differance you should have between spouse.

probably because of things in common etc.

I know people with 10 years differance, always a younger woman and older man

in fact an ex who's dad was older to the monther, found she prerfered older men ...... so maybe thats a clue

either way I'm happy for you man

if you both love each other fcuk anyone else

I doubt seriously if she'll go for that regardless of her age :)

In Europe this is not unusual at all. Right now I have a 28 and a 29 year old girl that will not leave me alone. One Russian and one American, I keep telling them that I am too old for them but they both say "let me worry about that" and keep calling and spending the night. Ya think I am going to kick them out you are wacko! :)

Do what makes you happy and do the best you can. If it lasts then you will be happy and if not then you know you did everything you could. Start a trust and put everything of high value in the trust, that protects you and the kids in case the wife gets money hungry.

Joe A

Joe- something tells me you are toying with disaster... but man, what a ride! :D :D :D

Rammstein,

I am not the one driving this (no pun intended) but one is a girl I have known for while and it just evolved. She lives overseas and we see each other 4-5 times a year.

Second one is a pilot and lives a couple of states away so see her more often. I just wanted to be friends but she flipped it a while ago. She just wants a FWB who is not a kid and I am helping her a bit in her career as well.

Would much rather find a late 30's or early 40's lady and get married but its not happened yet. Until then will just have to enjoy life as it is.

Just because they think you're really Dr. Phil.:D

And I do enjoy giving the exams! :)

Joe's got that certain something in person...I had a bit of a crush on him but he won't date above his age:confused: