24 year old girl with a 42 year old guy, Comments?
 

So I'm in a situation where I'd like to hear opinions and any experience people have with a relationship between a 24 year old girl and a guy who's 42...(18 year difference.)

I want kids, (perhaps a bunch). (I have no kids from my previous marriage.)

Youth is Beauty: Every 40 year old women is obsessed with looking younger for her partner. Why not just marry someone who will always look younger without effort?

My three month experience of living together so far? Effing awesome!

I've always lived my life by my own rules, so I'm not to concerned what the average person thinks about it. However, I am curious what experience and wisdom or advice I might find here.

All my guy friends are happy for me. The women I know in their lat 30's early 40's all seem bothered by it.

Why not?

Of course don't even consider it without a solid pre-nup.

If you match up well, who is to say what is right or wrong.
Norwegians say that if you take your age, divide by 2, then add 7 years you should be in the ballpark.
Good luck and have fun!

Because women in their late thirties/early forties are starting to decline in their perceived physical beauty and are competing for the attraction of men. They know men by their very nature are attracted to beauty and youth and younger women are attracted to somewhat older men who are confident and have some measure of perceived power. It's human nature. If you are happy with your situation more power to you. The fact that you are posting this tells me that you are not completely comfortable with the relationship though.

Why does it bother them?

"Half Your Age"

Hey now darlin', you thought it was all fun and games
Runnin' 'round, telling everyone why we're not together
I guess you just had to feel important
And I'm sure you thought I was just gonna sit back and take it on the chin
But honey, I'm a songwriter
And that darling is where you end and this song begins

[Chorus:]
I found someone new who treats me better
She don't ***** about things we ain't got
When I sing this tune it don't upset her
She's half your age and twice as hot

Oh she wakes up every morning and she folds my clothes
Doesn't care about the strippers dancing at my shows
She knows that I love her so I just wanted you to know

[Chorus] yee haw!yeah!.. [Chorus]

Oh she don't start trouble cuz she dont need drama
She likes it in the mornin' and she loves my momma
I'm her big poppa an she's my little rock n roll

[Chorus]

She's half your age and twice as hot
She's half your age and twice as hot

My wife is 21 years older than me...

We're good.



KT

In 20 years, you go limp and she's at her sexual peak. Start stockpiling Viagra now.

BTW.. Congrats! ;)

Virtual high five :D

My wife is 9 years younger than me. We are very happy and have been since day one. I,too thought that my age at the time, 33, would be a problem. Not so it tunrs out. My first was older by 4 years. Not that wasn't our problem, though.


What I considered before asking Amanda to marry me was "Do you see the two of you sitting together on the porch in a chair still holding hands when you're both old and gray?"

Yep. Heck, she even said she would change my diapers when the time comes. That is real love, gentlemen. :)



Bottom line is if you are both happy who cares what others think?


BTW-I'm 42 and probably wouldn't consider a 24 year old for a realtionship if I were single again. Most females that I know of that age are not into the kinds of recreation that I am. Meaning cars and car events, car shows, Pelican surfing, and NOT going out to clubs and what not.

I can't comment until I see pics

No one will even mention it when you run for president in 30 years...particularly if she's worth millions :). You only go around once...who cares!

ps: The only caveat: You're probably pretty settled...how much is she going to "change" in the next few years? I know you don't know the answer, just pointing it out...

Run with it. Sounds ok to me.

I'm 52. Does she have a younger sister?

Actually, in 20 years she will be ~14 years past her "sexual peak" and if she has kids, she may or may not be horny. So-called "sexual peak" in humans occurs @ about 18 in males and 30 in females as measured by production of eggs/sperm and sex drive.

Old joke: "How does it feel to be past your peak?"

"Not bad at all." ;)

I don't know about you, but I enjoy it a lot more now than when I was 18. A LOT more. Especially if the woman is somewhere near her peak age, that did not even matter when I was 18.

Age difference in relationships presents all kinds of potential problems or at least challenges that have nothing to do with sex. Hell, most same-age couples don't have perfect sex lives from what I hear. The big one is disparity of interests and cultural experiences, (when you grew up and tastes formed), but it's not insurmountable. Plus, 42/24 is not that radical of difference, one of my best friend's Dad is 75 and married to a 28 y.o. And they have a freaking baby. His step mother is younger than his wife by one year and they both have new-borns. His old man has been with her for 5 years or something. Talk about a "Great White Hunter". :D

My own experience, plus the experience of countless others, is that most relationships don't last forever regardless of age/money/health/etc.. If she makes you happy and vice-versa, go for it.

Personal experience here. There is no problem unless you make one. Physical age is just a number. I havnt experienced the age gap you are talking about but I have found that an 11 year one doesn't matter.
If you aren't stressing it, and she is good with it, then the rest of the world can just kiss Ya'lls a$$

Hey go for it!

At those ages, you represent desireable qualities for each other. For you, she's 24 and for her, you're NOT 24. Perfect!

If you can talk to her and not get bored or mad, you're all set.

And, 24 is a good age. When she's 28-29, that's when the crazy comes.
:)

The question is not about NOW its about 20 more years from now. What will that be like? Will she be a smoking hot MILF and leave your old geezer a$$ for guy that can keep up with her? BTW - mine is 10 years younger and all is good :)

Perfectly stated...my wife is nine years younger than I am. We married when I was 33 she was 24.

My only concern, ewave? Kids. Don't plan on having more than two if you start tomorrow. Think college tuition.

Other than that, roll with it.

The only concern I would have would be to make sure she has enough freedom to experience the "going out" with her friends at the clubs etc... I've met plenty of 30 somethings at the bar during my 20's seemingly trying to make up for lost time - and most of them were nuts and already divorced. Otherwise, go for it.

I don't think I'd have too much in common with a 24 y/o except wanting to have sex. That may be enough though. ;)

LOL, No Kidding !!

I have no problem with it, been there, done that. There can be more in common thann sex, but since when does that matter unless you are looking for a life partner. If both of you have fun, ride it out as long as it works.
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I wouldn't.

I'm nearly 50 (gulp) and my GF is 44. We seem about right.

I'd hate to go out with someone way younger as I would always be trying to prove how fit and energetic, and enthusiastic (sp) I am. With my partner I can fall asleep in front of the TV. NOT go to parties if I don't want to. Go to cafes/resturants instead of bars.

Younger people seem to think we have a "lesser" life, it's just a different life.

Just my opinion. I guess if I had it my way I'd have an endless string of 3 month relationships with 18 year old blonde girls that speak with a north european accent.

I'm 54 and my wife is 25. we've been married for 5 years. Its my first time, hers too. She's european which makes all the difference in that her goals and values are totally different than US woman. She was raised in a different society. Macdonalds, paper plates and our "disposable products" attitude are not in her vocabulary. I'm the rock, she's the drive, the enthusiasm. Shes much "older" than her US counterparts.
85% of the time it works well. There are times when life experiences make me feel like her older brother, but thats my problem not hers. I support her in any way I can and she keeps me grounded.
I did a lot of "globe trotting" during the first twenty years of my carreer, I've lived in many dif countries and partied hard. a long the way we met and that was it.

I have a friend who is about 50 and she wants to travel and do things, her husband is about 21 years older and wants to sit around and watch TV all day. I see issues down the road.

That sounds like YOUR problem, not hers. ;)

I'm recently divorced, and have been seeing a few different women lately, including some in their (very) early 20's.

I do what I want to do. I DO fall asleep in front of the TV. I do NOT go to parties if I don't want to. If they want to go out and do things I don't want to, go right ahead... see you in a couple of days, and have fun.

if anything, I prefer that. I really, REALLY like my "alone time", and can't stand smothering relationships where everyone has to be doing everything together.

But so far, the women I've been seeing haven't been big fans of the party scene, etc. That's how I met them in the first place... they seem rather mature for their age.

My philosophy is for them to go have your own life, and we'll intersect where appropriate and convenient, and if it works for both of us, excellent! If not, oh well... on to the next one. Sometimes we see a lot of each other, sometimes not.

$0.02


PS: The only really "interesting" thing is potentially having to meet their parents, who might not appreciate the fact that I'm almost twice their age.

I agree.

The couple I knew with a similar age difference had a good run together of about a dozen years. Think of it as a term marriage, because people do change.

It will be very hard.

"It" depends on what your definition of "it" is.;)

odds are it won't end well. So have fun while you can. And hey, you might be the exception :p

My parents were about 19 years apart. They were never really happy (maybe before I was born) because their interests and values were so different. They stayed together until my Dad died..although it was more like she was just taking care of him. for the last 10 years or so. She has had a blast since... doing all the things she felt she missed. She moved back to her home town, dated all the guys she knew from high school (her own age) that were still alive and not married...and eventually married one of them.

In 15 years, she'll be at the top...and you at the bottom.

Yup, I quite agree.

I'm guessing I would be like a friend who did date someone a bit less than half his age. Hell, she was worth it though. But he used to dye his hair, run, gym, adventure sports, everything he thought a 21 year old would want. As it turned out she would have been happy with just his wallet.

Jeff - Did you sell your DP Turbo?

Yasin

Not yet... still trying. A few people have expressed interest, but never went anywhere. Interested? ;)

Live every day like it's your last.

I'm with Mark...but do be aware that if every day isn't your last, there will be a day she will wake up to discover old age creeping up on her. :rolleyes:

I think it is great, if she is into it, you will be...

A man's only as old as the woman he feels.
-Groucho Marx

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