How often do you call your significant other on the phone?
 

This question is for people who regularly see their mate...not people who are always on the road for business, overseas with the military, etc.

I've noticed that my friends who are attached are seemingly always on the phone with their spouses/mates. People who just saw each other a couple hours ago yakking on the cell about what seems to be unimportant (to me anyway) stuff. I'm starting to think I'm the weird one.

Talking with my wife tonight about it, she says the other people in her office are constantly getting calls from their spouses. I asked if she would want me to do that, she said hell no, I'm busy working -- you can call if it's important, but not just to chat. But, I never call just to chat -- we see each other every day, and have plenty of time to chat when we are both free.

But all the people around me cannot seem to go more than a couple hours without voice contact. I just don't understand it -- I'm talking about grown people, not teenagers.

So, is everybody out there nuts, or am I the reject? ( I recognize these 2 answers may not be mutually exclusive).

rarely, speak to her in person generally

My wife is perfectly happy talking to me once a day, usually at night, right before bedtime. (When I'm on the road). It drives me nuts. I would like to at least say 'hello' once or twice during the day! One guy I work with wife calls every 30 minutes it seems. We all have a standing joke that she says,. Ted, I just called to let you know I just sneezed. Ted, I just called to let you know I walked across the kitchen floor. Its that bad really!! I would like something in the middle!!! When I'm home, it usually twice a day.

I usually call Steve for a few minutes each day if work allows and again in the evening for a nice longer chat. So, let's call it 1.5 times a day on the average.

Besides, he talks naughty to me and makes me smile! :p

angela

Angela, TMI.

We never talk by phone just to talk. It's usually some issue that we have to deal with, or a reminder to "do" something. Prefer interacting face to face. Didn't start that way, wife used to call just to chat. Since I am typically running anywhere from 15-60 minutes late (because something is always coming up/interrupting), this additional interruption did not reduce the stress. Eventually, she changed and now only calls when something is up. Makes it that much better when we can just be together, no work, no interruptions.

I try to call home every night when I'm on the road - which is frequent lately. Plus we typically text and/or email once or twice esp. if we can't connect by phone.

When she calls. Otherwise when we get home.

Karl
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I hate the telephone. A quick call at night at the max.

I hate the telephone.

We call back and forth all day, everyday.

I love her...


KT

Ahh... I actually mis-read the first post where it discussed how many phone calls when you DO see your spouse regularly. I travel alot and just thought the question was regarding # of calls when out of town. But home is different. For that, Steve or I usually call each other once per day when I'm in town. Try to have lunch together, figure out whose picking up the kids, etc.

The nice thing is that the phone calls could be about "something" like kids, an appointment, etc., or they could be about "nothing" like "just called to say I love you, etc."

I've seen spouses where the calls are one after another all day long. Blech. That would annoy the heck out of me. But getting to hear my husband's voice during the middle of the day for a few minutes is wonder. I love the sound of it, it makes me smile just to see his name on the caller ID.

angela

Respect. +1

Angela, +1 to you and your man.

They're nuts. My significant other and I do not call each other at work unless it's an absolute emergency. If it's simply important, we'll e-mail.

She ran an office, and her front desk girls couldn't understand why I didn't call 4 times a day like their (loser) husbands/boyfriends did. They figured I didn't care. They apparently didn't notice that it's because my SO ran the office, so she had to WORK, not TALK.

I rarely talk to my wife during the day. Occasionally she'll call with a question. Because I leave for work early, I'll often send a short text in the morning to say have a good day. I've known those guys that constantly got calls. That would drive me batty.

We spend most days together; however if I'm at the site for the day or a business trip I'll call her a couple times in a day and another in the evening. I talk to the kids too; I like it.

I call mine in the morning time to say Good morning, I am out of the house and working before her alarm goes off. Then I will call her when I sit down for lunch. We do more texting than anything. Don't have to answer a test if it is inconvenient. Funny thing is we never talk at home any more.

When either of us are away from the house we will call to check on each other. I knew this young lady for 10 days when I asked her to marry me and now after 42 years she is still my lover, wife and most important my best friend.

When I'm at home: seldom during the day. When I am on the road: I call once every night + I text when I am safely back at airport or after a long drive to ease her worried mind.

Ian

I tip my hat to Ya'll. I thought I was doing well at 23 years.

I travel a lot - when out of town, I usually talk to her 5 times a day.
When in town, a couple calls a day is norm - she owns her own business, so I'm not taking up an employers time with the calls - she has a cell phone off rule for her employees when their at work.

Once or twice a day during the work week. One of those times is to coordinate meeting up for our walk home from work. On the weekends, it depends whether we're going in different directions or if we're hanging out together.

We are both retired. I just yell downstairs.

I call her in the morning once I know the kids are awake. I leave before they wake during the week. I will usually call her in the afternoon to let her know what time I will be home for dinner.

When I had my Black Berry we would email more than talk.


Nothing like getting hollered at via email for something stupid I did the night before. the nice thing is that you don't need to reply. :D

If one of us is having a bad day, we call to provide support for one another.

I'm pretty sure we are soulmates.

I talk to my Stock Broker at least once a day and sometimes more now to hold my hand.

We will call each other at work only out of necessity. If it was up to her she would call me 20 times a day, just to say hello.
I hate the phone. I hate talking on the phone.

Zero (usually) to a couple times a day, depending on if there is something we need to talk about. If it is more than 2 calls and/or more than a 1 minute call, that's unusual. We tend to IM and email more than call.

Last time I spoke to my wife on the phone..the rotary phone was your only choice and BlackBerry was a fruit for pies and cereal.

Yasin

i talk to my wife once a day, usually, while she is at work. very rarely will i call her a second time and only if something has come up. i work nights and i work in a clinical setting, so she doesn't call me at work.

We call each other, whoever gets the chance, once a day just to say hi. Usually around noon.

She normally looks for me to call since I am very busy at work. Since laying off the entire company I wear 5 hats. I hit the field in the a.m. until 1-2 in the afternoon. I normally call her on the way into the office, since I am the passenger in the work truck.

My co-worker gets 3-6 calls a day. Sometimes I think they are discussing BM's. yuck.

Average 2x per day. But there's usually a point. The few times she calls me bored I cut it off pretty quickly.

with a handle of "onewhippedpuppy" I'd of thought you'd have taken the cake here? Ha!

Hate the phone?
You gotta just change your frame of mind; I mean seriously; who is gonna "LIKE" the phone?
I call it the "cash register"; that way when it rings and I call it that, it changes my frame of mind in answering it. If I dont want to answer it, I shut it off.

I also have the "mission impossible" theme song for a ring tone; Ha! I answer it "Mission Possible Headquarters". Try it.

Same here. I despise the telephone.

With VOIP and the use of computers, your employer can see how much time is devoted to personal phone calls. Just like they can determine which websites and how much time is used by an employee cruising the net or posting on Pelican BBS.

You may want to change your habit. I don't call Mrs. Ruf at all while I am working.

she goes thru spells. sometimes its to tell me she walked across the floor:D, well not really, but close. then it might be once a day. she is busier with the new store now. strange, sometimes i will stop and think, you know she has not called me today and then the phone rings. i guess after 20 years you get to know someone.
what really bugs me is she might call on the way home to talk about something that we could talk about at home, even though she will be home in a few minutes.
she is not a needy person by any means, just rattles on about stuff, usually a one sided conversation.

Once or twice a month.

I also suffer this too on occasion. She thinks I'm being 'curt' when I tell her to quit yakking & just get home sooner. It looks like we have a cell driving ban coming so that should curb this impulse.

Ian

We have4 a cell ban for the last couple of years and I still see people yapping while they are drivinbg or is it driving while they are yapping. Even the cops are yapping and they are suppose to enforce the no cell phone while driving ban.

We talk about once a day; the subject usually surrounding dinner, which roast to buy, sometimes a really interesting subject she heard on the radio. Other than that we are pretty normal

I had to put a stop to my g/f calling several times a day.

I explained it this way: If the house is on fire and you can get out safely, don't call me. If the house is on fire and you can't get out, call the fire dept. If the house is on fire, you can't get out and the fire dept. is busy, THEN you can call me.

She's afraid to call me now and I like it that way!

The first thing my employees learn: No personal calls/texting.