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m21sniper 11-16-2009 10:32 AM
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Originally Posted by fastfredracing (Post 5012031)
So my good buddy , got caught with another woman last week. I think he actually got caught in the act so there is no denying what went on.
They are not married, but they do have a kid together. They have been together for 13 some years now. They seem to get along really well, we hang out with them quite a bit, and I really do think they have a pretty good relationship.
But he has been complaining that he never gets any nookie. He told me a while back that he has had sex less than 5 times in the last two years. He told me that when the opportunity ( with the other woman ) presented itself, he could not resist. He said that after the kid came, all shenanigans in the bedroom came to a screeching halt.
While I feel bad for her, I cant help to think that if you are not taking of your man, you should not be all that surprised when he looks elsewhere .
Me and my lady had a long discussion about this last night, and of course she thinks he is scum for what he did, but I cant help to defend him a little bit.
What do you guys think??
Good for him IMO. If she is not giving him ass, it's her own damn fault.

m21sniper 11-16-2009 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by cbush (Post 5012132)
Sure he made a mistake, but obviously there are issues that need to be addressed in that relationship. Hopefully for him this will serve as a catalyst to make that happen. His biggest mistake though was letting the problem go unresolved for 5 years!
You people amaze me. Issues in that 'relationship?'

I'd say that 'relationship' has run it's course.....

m21sniper 11-16-2009 10:34 AM
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Originally Posted by danny_ocean (Post 5012211)
the thought of banging the same ole' bag for the next 50 years is what keeps me single. All of my married friends have the same mutual complaint (no sex, especially after kids). Some of them cheat (or want to).

The day they stop making new poon is the day i'll get married.
+111111111111111111111111111111111

Gogar 11-16-2009 10:43 AM
Alright, Snipe. I'm officiallly convinced that you and Danny Ocean are the same person. :)

T77911S 11-16-2009 10:57 AM
20 years of marriage, sometimes twice a day. lets see, sunday morning, saturday morning, friday night, she about busted my ear drums with her thighs:D, i dont think any on thursday, she worked and i had band practice. rest of the week is too long ago. could be this afternoon after work since she will be home when i get home, but i really need to get back to tearing down the shop.
its not about being tired of the same thing, its about loving the one your with. believe me, we may do it often, and it may be the same most of the time, but if you need to be differnet all the time, perhaps she is not the one, its hard to explain.

a lot of woman lose interest after babies, how can you compete with something that big.

bivenator 11-16-2009 10:59 AM
relationship advice from sniper is like military advise from dipso

JavaBrewer 11-16-2009 11:09 AM
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Originally Posted by bivenator (Post 5014464)
relationship advice from sniper is like military advise from dipso
:)

Tobra 11-16-2009 01:07 PM
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Originally Posted by bivenator (Post 5014464)
relationship advice from sniper is like military advise from dipso
Dude, that is a bit much, not a lot, just a bit.

No excuse for infidelity. I never have, never will, and I get plenty of strange thrown at me. I have too much respect for myself to ever allow that to happen.

If you are not getting any, there is a reason. If you can't work through the reason, you leave. If kids involved, it complicates things, but you are doing the kids more harm staying in a bad relationship than leaving it. I am certain there are some, at least one anyway, who would say you must stay together for the kid's sake, but that is flat wrong IMHO.

81turboporsche 11-16-2009 02:54 PM
another reason why i dont want to get married , I am 24 and i have known this since in my early teens, the guy took the easy way out but he will never hear the end of it and the nookie he once got annually will be at a standstill.he better get accustomed to the spas.he must have looked like a deer in the headlights when caught ouch

Superman 11-16-2009 03:39 PM
I'm not going to weigh in on the question of who is wrong and who is right......who failed and who succeeded......who is a dirtbag and why and what should have been done.

I'll just say that I see little reason to change my single status and every reason to preserve it.

KaptKaos 11-16-2009 05:17 PM
5 times in 2 years is really sad.

The cheating is a symptom, not really the problem. He's stuck with her this long, so he must feel something for her.

fintstone 11-16-2009 07:11 PM
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Originally Posted by 81turboporsche (Post 5014921)
another reason why i dont want to get married...
Probably why he didn't want to get married as well.

Someone should have warned her; men seldom buy cows...when milk is free.

aigel 11-16-2009 07:16 PM
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Originally Posted by JavaBrewer (Post 5014168)
Women don't put as much stock into a mans looks as men think they do. Sure they appreciate a good looking guy but there are many other factors that pave the road beyond just looks.
I go completely unnoticed in my beat up truck. If I am in the 993, suddenly the ladies start checking me out. :rolleyes: This actually has been studied ...

http://www.motorauthority.com/blog/1032707_shocker-women-find-expensive-cars-more-attractive

George

red-beard 11-16-2009 07:46 PM
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Originally Posted by fintstone (Post 5015424)
Probably why he didn't want to get married as well.

Someone should have warned her; men seldom buy cows...when milk is free.
Not trying to defend him, but farmers move to the next cow, when bossie quits giving.

It is obvious that there are serious problems in this relationship. It does not justify cheating.

fintstone 11-16-2009 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by red-beard (Post 5015479)
Not trying to defend him, but farmers move to the next cow, when bossie quits giving.

It is obvious that there are serious problems in this relationship. It does not justify cheating.
I cannot justify his cheating on his girlfriend. He obviously should have told her he was moving on; but after more than a decade and no offer of marriage...and a practically sexless relationship...she should have not been very surprised. Setting up a household and having children without the benefit/longevity of marriage is simply unwise...particularly for a woman.

red-beard 11-16-2009 08:23 PM
I think the word "wise" does not apply to either individual. I feel sorry for the child. Probably our next criminal, drug addict, or POTUS.

johnnywishbone 10-18-2013 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by johnnywishbone (Post 5012554)
he is not the dirtbag.
she is the dirtbag.
pictures not required, unless something really unique. 1 legged midget or something else primo.
she could do him the "big favor", wouldn't that be fun. like banging a corpse. a corpse screaming
"YOU PAY NOW!!!!"
I can't believe i posted that.
What was i thinking?
Hahaha!

McLovin 10-18-2013 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by fastfredracing (Post 5012031)
I think he actually got caught in the act so there is no denying what went on.
"It's not what it looks like!"

porsche4life 10-18-2013 11:39 AM
Holy thread revival batman!

kach22i 10-18-2013 12:09 PM
Justified or not, your buddy made his choice and must live with the consequences.

It's not my job to judge him, it's an adult matter between two (or more) adults.

I know of someone in a similar situation, showed them some sympathy and understanding, and then found out they have a very spotty fidelity record based on geographical convenience.


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