Originally Posted by Dueller (Post 5600346)

Not to hammer the OP'er, but your attitude/behavior sounds a little manipulative. No, a lot manipulative. And indicates a hint of control issues in romantic relationships. This, coming from someone who has been a master at that game. Learning that it is not the healthiedst way to approach relationships has been an eye opener for me.

In any event, do you want to be with someone that can be your puppet? Because there may be another puppeteer that can outdo you down the road?

Originally Posted by Dueller (Post 5600346)

Not to hammer the OP'er, but your attitude/behavior sounds a little manipulative. No, a lot manipulative. And indicates a hint of control issues in romantic relationships. This, coming from someone who has been a master at that game. Learning that it is not the healthiest way to approach relationships has been an eye opener for me.

Originally Posted by tabs (Post 5600835)

Ditto..

A dog with fleas...

Originally Posted by wreckersteve (Post 5600653)

No more advice till we get pictures.

Originally Posted by AFC-911 (Post 5598294)

3 years ago, I met two girls. I decided to date one and the other became one of my best friends. I eventually broke up with the one I was dating. My best friend, however, began dating another guy. I was ok with that.

7 months ago, I left town for a job. I told my best friend that I liked her, but of course, nothing happened since I left. What sucks is that I never got a definite "no" or a definite "yes" or even a "maybe."

I get back 2 months ago & she's dating someone new...And it's eating at me.

I know it's possible to end up dating your best friend, as I've done it before. I could also break them up (I'm actually quite good at that), but I don't really feel like doing that these days...

She is an awesome best friend, but I really don't want to be in the same room as her new guy. I'm sure he might be alright, but I hate him based on principle.

I always get my yes, but I guess I won't this time around...Time to call it quits?

Originally Posted by randy p (Post 6456923)

don't be that way. Welcome him. Be her "friend"- don't hit on her- yet. She knows you are there so you are in the cupboard.

No moves that is, until they break up or she just does something to you anyhow with them still dating.. Just sit there, she'll come around. If she really wasnt interested you'd know by now. She doesn't call you "kuya" does she?

Anyhow, be cool. The very fact you told her before you wanted to cram her good and she didn't flinch means you are still in the game. Don't chase, just be there. She'll come around then you hit it.

Rjp

Originally Posted by tweezers74 (Post 6456537)

i guess one of the advantages of being one of the few female posters is having a glimpse into the minds of men. So help me out.

I know how it is for guys to be in the friend zone but i have never been in the friend zone when i have not wanted to be. Soooooo... Is it possible to get out of the friend zone as a woman? advice? Pointers? And why would a guy keep a woman in the friend zone? He flirts. We go out together... Alone. No other friends. I know some of his friends and we used to go out with them but now, when he invites me out, it is just me and him. We talk, text, e-mail on an almost weeekly basis if not daily. He's told me he thinks i am awesome. He thinks i am smart. Says i am very attractive. He even got me a thoughtful christmas present. So what's the deal? I have backed off majorly since he said he just wanted to be "friends". I don't smother him. In fact, gone out with other guys since he has said the f word. Haven't mentioned that fact to him though. Should i?

I am kind of scared of the responses i will get but hey, why not get advice from the source? :p thanks, guys!

Originally Posted by AFC-911 (Post 6456840)

So tweezers "Friend Zone" thread reminded me of this one I started a while back.

Just as an update, I'm told by some of our mutual friends (two of which are also hot, but also off limits) that their current relationship (the girl I like and the douche) is not a healthy one and apparently not going very well.

I just went to a concert with her a couple weeks ago and not a word was spoken of their relationship afterwards. I don't care to ask and she won't bring it up around me.

And no, I'm not seeing her as much, although we still hang out from time to time (without her bf, of course).