Add four people to my household?

No. Especially relatives. Two would be real tough, four - NO WAY. It's easy to throw out unrelated people, but family is defines the ties that bind and gag.

Rent them a trailer, in a trailer park. Them on the rental as responsible party, you pay the first couple of months. Tell them this will give them a "good start" and "their own private space" while they get their feet under them.

Then walk away. You'll have given them a roof over their heads, privacy, a sense of independence, and a way, way bigger opportunity than most people would. Probably get this done for a couple of grand or less. It will prove a bargain in the end....

angela

Just now realized that I have no problems....

Do the right thing. GOD will bless you.

She knows better but if she did, I'd tell her hell no and that if she was dumb enough to bring it up again she'd be looking for a place to stay.

I don't like strangers in my house. I don't even like friends in my house for very long.
It's mine, it's my sanctuary, it's where I'm comfortable, and I purposefully do not allow others to intrude on that.

Besides, people suck more than anybody.
Now get off my lawn, I'm totally serial.

I've peed on his lawn....

Should we be keeping an eye on the news out of Orange, Sammy? :D

We had the Room Monkeys for 17 months. Of hell.

Ian

Start bathroom remodels or decide to rip the kitchen out now.

rjp

I like Angela's advice.
Someone once said, regarding motorhomes, that "no matter the size, you can entertain six, feed four, and sleep two." I think you could say the same for your home.
Do you have a separate guest wing?
Ideally a house will have a separate bathroom for each occupant.
Good luck,

Welcome them in with open arms... They're family and that's it.

It won't hurt I promise. :rolleyes:

Are you OK with the dyke in law spending all that quality time teaching your kid what she believes? Are their 2 kids as well behaved as yours?
What if they can't find a place right away? What if there is a snag in getting financed due to some stupid snafu that has nothing to do with their credit worthiness? Once they move in, you will be lower than pond scum if you throw them out (even if you put them up somewhere else). Better to say no up front.
My motto is "Fish and company stink after 3 days"

I'd say NO. And that would be that.

For the short term, this is the correct answer. No question. But there has to be an explicit end game.

Ian

You cram 3 whole people into a 4-br house?!? I bet you only have 2.5 bathrooms as well. How do you manage that? Crazy...

Just me, but I would help family. Of course, there would be an explicit time limit set. If they're successful in their medical fields, they can start applying now for the area they wish to live in. Logistics are always an issue, and in a situation like this I wouldn't give an affirmative answer unless they knew exactly when they would be moving into their own place. I wouldn't give them more than a month, otherwise, they suck at planning.

The fact that they are same sex, or have African-American kids is irrelevant.. They are asking A LOT, and you'd be fully within your rights to refuse.

They are family and should be treated like family (even if they are a bunch of nasty ol' dykes).

I think they should stay but a finish date on this "favor" needs to be set. Say that they are more than welcome to stay for a month.

What ever you do will turn out badly.........say no and everyone will hate you. Invite them to stay and the same result will happen. As others have mentioned, find them a place while they get their lives in order so yours dosen't get turned upside down.

No way!!!

Sounds like it's going to happen. A garage upgrade may be the only thing that protects your sanity.

Not only no, but hell no. Anyone that is willing to come and impose themselves on you will likely not be a polite house-guest, nor will they leave quickly or easily. You mentioned that they wanted to buy a house, which is all well and good, but why can't they rent for 6 months until they find a house to buy?

My wife's sister was having troubles in life, so we allowed her to live with us while she finished college (supposedly 3 semesters). 3 years of hell later I finally told her that we were moving and she wasn't coming with us. In our 10 years together, nothing has caused more fights between my wife and I, and the experience negatively tainted my wife's relationship with her sister. So I've lived it dude, run like hell.