Anyone here ever used Match dot com?

[930 slant nose]

i found my 1974 911 on there good match although didnt last
trying again soon just window shopping right now

[Rick Lee]

Match only works if you use it correctly. There is definitely a protocol for doing things there and it's largely unwritten. I started out by getting way too sucked into the ongoing email exchanges before meeting and that was bad. One I remember vividly because the girl was so interesting on email, had traveled everywhere, had a high-power job and was super smart. But the emails continued for so long because she was always on the road. When I finally met her at Starbucks, she brought her sister with her as an out in case I turned out to be a freak. She dismissed her sister immediately and we later went out on a real date. Would you believe she used a fake name with me for months? On our first real date she had tix for a museum exhibit, but left her purse in my truck. We got to the museum after walking a while in the rain, when she found out she needed her credit card. She asked me to go get it out of her wallet and - get this - her credit card even had the fake name on it!!! I didn't rifle through and look at her DL because I didn't suspect anything. She later sent me an email from her work email with her real name, apologizing and explaining the whole thing and saying she wanted to come clean before it went any farther because she really liked me and didn't want the charade to go on any longer. I dropped her like a hot potato after that. She still called me from overseas business trips a few more times, but I was barely polite to her and she got the picture.

[BK911]

I got more a$$ than a toilet seat from match. Some I would never take out in public, but whatever.

Cover all the bases. Bars, grocery store, gym, and internet. Dont let anything through!!

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by BK911

I got more a$$ than a toilet seat from match. Some I would never take out in public, but whatever.

Cover all the bases. Bars, grocery store, gym, and internet. Dont let anything through!!

Ditto. I did well. But you have to be careful. What happens when you're on a Match date and the two of you walk past another one you banged a few mos. ago and she notices you? Yes, that happened to me (more than once, IIRC). Such is the danger of dating in a small town. The DC area may be big, but downtown DC itself is very small. I have never once walked out of my office there without seeing people I knew on the street. At one point I was bouncing between two Filipinas, one who worked in my bldg and could always see me coming down in the glass elevator, and another who had a window office a block away and could see me walking to lunch. It can get dicey, but those were good times.

[speeder]

You're a funny man, Tennessee.

[speeder]

Filipinas?? Jesus, RL. They have a crazy rate of about 999.5 out of 1000 in my experience. I stay away from them no matter how hot they are. That's asking for a second circumcision. Not looking for a mail-order bride, just some nice American broads that want to do the naked dance.

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by speeder

Filipinas?? Jesus, RL. They have a crazy rate of about 999.5 out of 1000 in my experience.

Absolutely. But you've heard the term LBFMs, no? That was them.

Just saying, if you're into certain ethnic groups, bear in mind they tend to run in the same circles and have mutual friends. Tread cautiously if you build up a pipeline of FWBs or FBs.

I ran into another "ex" in a Chinese place in Annandale, VA, which is basically Koreatown but with one great northern style Chinese restaurant. I rode my bike there, so walking into the dining room with a dayglo jacket and carrying a helmet made me kind of hard to miss. Luckily, I was alone so there was no drama. I actually sat down at her table and we had a very good talk. I wasn't planning on that and it was uncomfortable. But looking back, I'm glad it happened. I sort of wronged that one and feel like I made it right then.

[Jim Richards]

We also used to joke about RL being "between asian girlfriends." You really worked that online dating service hard.

[ramonesfreak]

Originally Posted by Rick Lee

Match only works if you use it correctly. There is definitely a protocol for doing things there and it's largely unwritten. I started out by getting way too sucked into the ongoing email exchanges before meeting and that was bad. One I remember vividly because the girl was so interesting on email, had traveled everywhere, had a high-power job and was super smart. But the emails continued for so long because she was always on the road. When I finally met her at Starbucks, she brought her sister with her as an out in case I turned out to be a freak. She dismissed her sister immediately and we later went out on a real date. Would you believe she used a fake name with me for months? On our first real date she had tix for a museum exhibit, but left her purse in my truck. We got to the museum after walking a while in the rain, when she found out she needed her credit card. She asked me to go get it out of her wallet and - get this - her credit card even had the fake name on it!!! I didn't rifle through and look at her DL because I didn't suspect anything. She later sent me an email from her work email with her real name, apologizing and explaining the whole thing and saying she wanted to come clean before it went any farther because she really liked me and didn't want the charade to go on any longer. I dropped her like a hot potato after that. She still called me from overseas business trips a few more times, but I was barely polite to her and she got the picture.

Getting way too sucked into the email thing is not a problem that is exclusive to MDC. its a problem with any of them. because of the safety issues involved, people (men too) use email to "get to know" the person. you begin liking the person only to realize it was their email persona you liked and not the actual person. and it works both ways. one can unknowingly create an image of oneself that is difficult to live up to or is just different in real life.

meeting quickly without a lot of communication is the best way in my experience. i find those that have the need to tell me every detail about stuff via email before we even meet, to be very very creepy, or phony

-i gave up the practice of meeting dates online years ago. some interesting experiences but overall, an intensely negative distraction in my life. trying to make something happen aint for me

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

We also used to joke about RL being "between asian girlfriends." You really worked that online dating service hard.

Actually, Jim, if you remember the one that used to always say hi when you and I had lunch at the Corner Bakery in my bldg., I just met her because I worked in the same bldg., not online. She was the travel agent on the second floor and I used to always walk by her window on the way to PJ's. One day I felt bold, walked in and struck up a conversation with her. That was a good one to keep on the side for a while.

[Jim Richards]

Right, right. I remember now. It was hard keeping track of all the girls.

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

Right, right. I remember now. It was hard keeping track of all the girls.

And you surely remember Vivianne - my first real Chinese GF. Though that fell apart after about a year, she's the one that got me interested in China and I'd surely have never met my wife if I hadn't known Vivianne first. In fact, when I first met Sandy and asked her where she was from and she said Nanjing, I replied, "Oh, I was just there two weeks ago." How many first dates does that happen on? Never would have happened had I not known Vivianne. It all worked out in the end. And I still talk with Vivianne once in a while, saw her last May. Total MILF now.

[Jim Richards]

Yeah, I remember her. Nice girl, but you hit the jackpot with Sandy.

[genrex]

What ramonesfreak said, and what bivenator said in the Crazy Women thread.

My experience has been the same as theirs.

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[Bill Douglas]

I had quite (understamement) a good time on match.

I met my fabulous girlfriend, whom I adore, speed dating - I highly recommend it and will be going back next time.

[Oracle]

In MDC you get a lot of fun... (more that you'll care to admit) but my current gf I found her in POF (plentyoffish.com) and so far so good!
POF is not good because is free so there is lot of deadwood but in match.com because is pay you get it!

About online dating someone said: How else can you check out 200 women and out of them 20 that you like and that each one of them is looking to go out on dates and all this in 20 minutes!

good luck!

[ramonesfreak]

Originally Posted by Oracle

In MDC you get a lot of fun... (more that you'll care to admit) but my current gf I found her in POF (plentyoffish.com) and so far so good!
POF is not good because is free so there is lot of deadwood but in match.com because is pay you get it!

About online dating someone said: How else can you check out 200 women and out of them 20 that you like and that each one of them is looking to go out on dates and all this in 20 minutes!

good luck!

true. to me it always felt like i was looking at the new Bass Pro Shop catalog or something. ill take that, one of those, one of these.......very odd world we live in when choosing a girl is like shopping. All those expensive sushi dinners added up though. why did i always pick up the tab?