Don't admit to being selfish for not having kids. Don't perpetuate that myth. It's only selfish if you have them and then still live like you don't have any.

Oh I know....but I really don't care enough about the people who ask. Really.....I could care less if these people think I'm a selfish douche or a hero to all men.

Exactly my point. Once you have kids, you'll feel the same way. But yes, I agree, kids aren't for everyone.

Um, it's not all the men to whom you want to be a hero. ;)

Oh c'mon...it was already implied that I'm a hero to women! That goes without saying! ;)

Seriously though...in terms of NOT having kids? I am a hero to men, as many of my male friends felt somewhat pressured into having kids before they were ready. I'm not sure what the big deal is....is it so hard to say "no"?? I know for certain many of them them envy me because I don't have all the family obligations they do.

Me? I used to lay it all on the line once it get serious with someone I started dating. "I never want kids..so if you do then I'm probably not the guy for you". Easy. Actually lost a girl I really cared for. But it would have been unfair to her not be upfront about it.

Why don't you have any kids.............................................. ...........












Your wife makes me use a condom.

I have gotten to the point where invasive questions get a very harsh answer.

The point about the environment from my perspective is not related to folks in developed countries that have a reasonable number of kids they can afford to take care of and help shape in to productive citizens.

I'm no expert but something I see in our country that drives me crazy are people that produce essentially unwanted children driven either by their own ignorance, lack of self control or some idealized vision of being a mommy/daddy that doesn't materialize. We've got reality tv shows for teen moms and systems that essentially pay people to bear children in to poverty. I mentor a kid who comes from a biological family centered around one woman with drug abuse and criminal history who's pumped out at least 6 kids to date by multiple fathers, one who was killed as an infant landing her and the baby daddy in jail. I don't think her story is unique. She'll probably have 4 or 5 more before she's done. What should we do with people like her? Sterilize her, pay her not to have kids?

The growth in population though is happening primarily in underdeveloped countries with women who essentially don't know about or have access to the ability to control their own reproduction of children due to cultural/religous and a variety of other issues.

from Wikipedia;

• According to the United Nations' World Population Prospects report:[45]
• The world population is currently growing by approximately 74 million people per year. Current United Nations predictions estimate that the world population will reach 9.0 billion around 2050, assuming a decrease in average fertility rate from 2.5 down to 2.0.[46][47]
• Almost all growth will take place in the less developed regions, where today's 5.3 billion population of underdeveloped countries is expected to increase to 7.8 billion in 2050. By contrast, the population of the more developed regions will remain mostly unchanged, at 1.2 billion. An exception is the United States population, which is expected to increase by 44% from 2008 to 2050.[48]
• In 2000–2005, the average world fertility was 2.65 children per woman, about half the level in 1950–1955 (5 children per woman). In the medium variant, global fertility is projected to decline further to 2.05 children per woman.
• During 2005–2050, nine countries are expected to account for half of the world's projected population increase: India, Pakistan, Nigeria, Democratic Republic of the Congo, Bangladesh, Uganda, United States, Ethiopia, and China, listed according to the size of their contribution to population growth. China would be higher still in this list were it not for its one-child policy.
• Global life expectancy at birth is expected to continue rising from 65 years in 2000–2005 to 75 years in 2045–2050. In the more developed regions, the projection is to 82 years by 2050. Among the least developed countries, where life expectancy today is just under 50 years, it is expected to increase to 66 years by 2045–2050.
• The population of 51 countries or areas is expected to be lower in 2050 than in 2005.
• During 2005–2050, the net number of international migrants to more developed regions is projected to be 98 million. Because deaths are projected to exceed births in the more developed regions by 73 million during 2005–2050, population growth in those regions will largely be due to international migration.
• In 2000–2005, net migration in 28 countries either prevented population decline or doubled at least the contribution of natural increase (births minus deaths) to population growth.[49]
• Birth rates are now falling in a small percentage of developing countries, while the actual populations in many developed countries would fall without immigration.[46]

Nature will control this at some point, it's just a matter of how, when and how many are affected. Overpopulation is a huge concern and probably one of the single biggest controllable impacts on the environment.

^ Gold. ^ :D