What do you guys do when your S.O gets all crabass on you?
 

I'm a lucky guy in this respect. We usually work as a team, and rarely fight. But , no man in a relationship is immune to this, you go to bed one night a golden god, and you wake up the next morning, the biggest degenerate scum bag useless specimen of a man , that there ever was.
Today was my day.
What do you guys do when the warden acts up? I usually try to remain calm, not look her in the eye, and ask if there is anything I can do to help . When this strategy does not work, , I try to quietly , just disappear. Either up to the shop, or I'll go out , and mow grass, cut wood, , or mess around the yard, take a little bike ride with the kid, , ya know, give her a few hours to cool down.
I NEVER engage. Yes dear, no dear, as I backtrack, looking for my car keys, while I have my eye on the back door. I have learned that a woman poised for an argument, is more dangerous than a mad mama grizzly.
This being a man thing can be a tough road sometimes.

Men get pissy too. But you have the right tactics in mind. It takes 2 to fight and she can't fight a smiling and kind face. She will remember each and every move. Just keep the kindness flowing and be careful with the smile lest it be misconstrued. Make the disappearing act seem inadvertent.

I was a total failure at these things....which is why I only "rent" as it were.

It's why I am working in the office on a Sunday morning.

My marriage started out great but time and other stuff wore it down.
After 17 years it finaly went South in a real hurry.

What I learnt was "Your wife's lament is non of your business".

What that means is when she's talking... Listen to her and don't try and solve her problems for her. She wants to do that herself. Make her a cup of tea or whatever she drinks and then just sit and shut up.

Pickup some of her very favorite donuts/ pastries, or some of her very favorite chocolates (in a small box just for her). At least $10 worth.

Plan 1 -- call the babysitter (if your kid needs a sitter), get pizza or take-out for the kid and the sitter, and take your wife out to a nice restaurant (preferably her favorite one). Dinner + drinks is good...

Plan 2 -- the backup plan. No babysitter, but most importantly no cooking for your wife. Take a drive and get pizzas or take-out (so everybody's happy), along with a nice dessert (try to get one of her favorite desserts).

Good luck! :)

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Mr Flatbut

Stop renting and get out there. Plenty of great single gals looking for a great guy.

You are prolly not the only one here... I just gave up. Do not need the company bad enough to put up with the hassle. Assume (and hope) that there is a woman out there for me but sure have not found her yet...

That's how it always starts. It's all downhill after that.

"I usually try to remain calm, not look her in the eye, and ask if there is anything I can do to help . When this strategy does not work, , I try to quietly , just disappear. Either up to the shop, or I'll go out , and mow grass, cut wood, , or mess around the yard, take a little bike ride with the kid, , ya know, give her a few hours to cool down.
I NEVER engage. Yes dear, no dear, as I backtrack, looking for my car keys, while I have my eye on the back door. I have learned that a woman poised for an argument, is more dangerous than a mad mama grizzly."

That's about my strategy (though I rarely need to use it).
No point in getting into a fight you can't win.
Jim

Why not record it and post it for the world to see?

I hate arguing, get out of dodge.

instead of retreating try this,
sit with her and let her talk things through,
let her see your not going off to the man cave wherever that is,
this might take an hour or so,
but you will both feel better after the episode is passed.

Listen but dont try to solve any problems unless she asks you

I must be partially immune. I've never gone to bed a golden god. I'm quite familiar with the rest though.

Mine never does. Shes like Mary Poppins..:rolleyes:

I've learned the hard way. Here's some tactics to avoid:

Her: You know WHAT?
Me: Ya, I know what. I told you WHAT and you didn't like my answer.

Her: If you don't have a drink 2nite, you might get lucky.
ME: I've been down that road, the operative word is MIGHT. I'm not only gonna have a drink, I'm gonna UPGRADE and have a DOUBLE.

By "rent" I think he means, date. You know, take her out, YOU pay for the show and dinner, and maybe you get a return on your money, maybe not.

I almost always turn it around on her and make her feel guilty lol

Apparently, I said the wrong thing at lunch today and now I'm in the doghouse.:rolleyes:





I'm goin' for a drive!SmileWavy

Maybe showing her this video would help?

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You know....appeal to her sense of humour :p

I'm 33 years in on my way to forever with my wife. You have to pick your spots. If you just "yes ma'am, no ma'am" all the time she won't respect you. Every once in a while you have to dig in and win that argument. I don't insist on being right every time, but every so often, ill mix it up a little, decide that it's time to be a man and let her know who's running things around here!

Don't be a bully, but don't give in just to appease.

Boy Baz, that makes me really want a beer right now! :)

Joe A

It's never starts with the actual gripe about you.
That pack of hell-fire beasts springs out of the closet a half hour later, after you're settled down and not looking.
Be thankful.
Getting on you case is a daily control thing.
If she was really mad, she'd be very quiet and disappointed.

After 26 years of marriage and a few years dating before that I just ask one simple question and my response depends on her answer.
"Are you mad at me?"
If she says no I simply ask her not to take it out on me, this usually calms her down to the point where I don't feel the need to hide her gun.
If the answer is yes then I simply ask her what I did/didn't/should have done differently.
If she is right I tell her I am sorry and try and correct the situation, If I am right I tell her to get over herself and I leave her to stew.
Life is too short to deal with hormonal people

I ignore her completely. Sometimes for days. Don't let others ruin your day.

My former wife became *****ier and *****ier as the years went by. When I knew she was looking for a scrap, I would walk upstairs lock myself in the bathroom; sit down and read my stash of car magazines.
She would follow of course and kick and hit the door until she got tired of it.
I would just continue on reading.
I learnt to not confront her. It would have been awful for the kids.

How I miss those lovey dovey days.

What do you guys do when your S.O gets all crabass on you?
 

Open up the Pelican boobs thread followed by the legs and ass thread.

Accidentally leave this article somewhere: Semen acts as an anti-depressant - 26 June 2002 - New Scientist

I can say that after 29 years together, married in our teens, that sometimes you simply have to look at what the issue is and decide (I am going to fight and win, or screw it, this is not worth it). Given that she loves speed, cars, bikes, racing and supported me through graduate school I give her a lot of leeway.

Victory in an argument is not predicated on who is able to yell the loudest but who is able to be the kindest. Just my two cents worth...

This is why I like my 911 better than most women. If it pisses me off I can lock it in the garage for a few days....try that with a wife and see what happens ...... :)

Life happens and at some point you may make the decision to put yourself first (for a change)
I went years on the same socks and underwear... And over a decade on the same Tshirts. My choice but I had kids, mortgage and wife so I had to do what I thought was right.

Looking back I was a fool.

Run! I don't care where to, run!:D

precisely

Nothing clears your mind like new P**** :D

One night my wife had a dream about us. I did something in the dream that made her real mad. She woke up and was pissed at me as if I had done something wrong. It took her two days to get over it.

My wife gets moody fairly frequently...mostly when she has to go to work the next day. I learned a long while ago not to engage her...just disappear. That usually works OK but at times one must 'push back' or the aggression will only get worse and more often...part of maintaining your man card.

It's hard to just sit and listen to them vent about other stuff, but that's what they want much of the time as has been stated. One of those Mars/Venus things I guess.

All this crap seems to be a common thread among married men :confused:

I can't watch it while my wife is home It'll just start another one..:rolleyes:

I used a carefully reasoned and logical arguement that explains to her why what she's feeling is more due to external or internal factors than the actual issue, and talk about why the actual issue is pretty minor.

Works every time.

Seriously though, main thing is to 1) open ears 2) close mouth.

Seems a lot of you are scared of your wives. WTF is up with that? I suggest growing a pair and earn some respect.

I thought this was funny:

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