Are women....

[recycled sixtie]

more foreward than they used to be. Namely if a woman u worked with previously asked u out for coffee would u:
1. not reply to the email
2. say u are bringing your wife
3. the positive response is I don't need to know.
So this is a 2 part question. Are women nowadays more aggressive?
2. How do you handle an email like this?

[Rapewta]

1. If you are married say so. Don't screw up.
2. If you are single then go out with her. Women don't wait around anymore for
some man to make the first advance.
3. Have some fun.

[VaSteve]

Originally Posted by recycled sixtie

Namely if a woman u worked with previously asked u out for coffee would u:

Is she perhaps looking for a job? If she knows you have a wife...maybe that's all it is.

[DARISC]

Anytime a woman u worked with previously asks u out for coffee it means she wants to fondle your genitals and gawd knows where that could lead so you should definitely bring your wife (wives, if you're a Morman) maybe?

[Schrup]

I don't have that problem around the office, everyone is professional. There are plenty of women here during business hours. If I got an email like that, it would be the last one. I don't put out those vibes at all. I caught wind of something like that going on several years ago & it didn't appear to end well.

When I did construction, one of the guys tapped a married office girl. We knew her hubby from softball, way too serious & we all clowned him. When he found out, he slashed her face with a knife horribly & then stabbed himself to death all in front of the kids.

[DARISC]

Originally Posted by Schrup

...I don't put out those vibes at all.

Aaaah HA!!!

Recy60, have you been putting out those vibes again?! Weren't you warned not to do that in the past?!

[RWebb]

tell her yes, and mention that your wife refuses to have any coffee in the house except for organic sustainable Wandering Goat ao you are looking forward to a real blend

[Zeke]

Coffee? That's no big deal. Tell your wife you are meeting a previous work acquaintance to exchange professional business leads. If the inviter doesn't want to talk business, I doubt you will stay long for the talk. Other people's (grand)kids are boring.

[Tobra]

^this^

and yes, women are more forward than they used to be.

[Gogar]

Slow down sparky, Maybe she's looking for job leads.

[DARISC]

Originally Posted by Gogar

Slow down sparky, Maybe she's looking for job leads.

Today's aggressive women oft times use genital fondling as a method of obtaining job leads.

[Laneco]

Originally Posted by Schrup

When I did construction, one of the guys tapped a married office girl. We knew her hubby from softball, way too serious & we all clowned him. When he found out, he slashed her face with a knife horribly & then stabbed himself to death all in front of the kids.

Good heavens!

The business that I work in is probably 90% men. If I'm asking you to coffee, it's business or we're buddies. I'm not to put it bluntly "trying to fondle your genitals."

If you don't feel OK with it, then don't go. If you're just unsure, bring a work buddy

angela

[BE911SC]

More forward? It has always depended on what they want and how bad they want it.

[KFC911]

A) Hell yes
B) Hell no
C) Hell, I don't know...

The correct answer is always C

[Icemaster]

Is 'coffee' some new acronym that you kids are using in place of fuch ing?

Is it possible that maybe she just wants to have coffee and a conversation? BTDT.

[DARISC]

Originally Posted by Icemaster

Is it possible that maybe she just wants to have coffee and a conversation? BTDT.

Ya think?

[MRM]

It's also entirely possible that women are more comfortable treating men, including male coworkers as equals and don't see any reason an invitation to coffee should have a sexual overtone to it just because it's extended to a member of the oposite sex.

Or maybe women just want to have sex with everyone they ask to have coffeee with. It hasn't happened to me yet, personally, but we men know that every time a woman brings herself to our attention, it's a subtle indication that she's asking us to have sex with her, right?

I'm personally suspecting that sometimes a cup of coffee is just a cup of coffee, but by all means you should tell your wife. If you have a secret from your wife, no matter how small, it means you have something to hide. And nothing good ever comes from having something to hide in a relationship.

One final point is a modifier to all the advice set forth above. High up in the Man Code there is a provision that states there is a sliding scale for the kind of activity to be tolerated with a woman who is not one's spouse, based on level of hottness. Coffee with pretty much any woman is ok. Swimming naked in a hotel pool is clearly OK if the woman inviting you to jump in is a circa 1980s Christie Brinkley driving an F car (which is at least +9 charisma points), even if your wife is Beverly D'Angelo. Anything in between requires a balancing aproach.

So all in all, go to the local coffee shop, have a nice cup of coffee but don't enjoy anything stronger than half decaf.

[tweezers74]

Originally Posted by Laneco

Good heavens!

The business that I work in is probably 90% men. If I'm asking you to coffee, it's business or we're buddies. I'm not to put it bluntly "trying to fondle your genitals."

If you don't feel OK with it, then don't go. If you're just unsure, bring a work buddy

angela

This. I AM more forward. That being said, if I ask you to go out for coffee, I am asking you out for coffee. If I am asking you to come back to my place, I am asking you to come back to my place. No hidden messages. It's probably just for coffee.

[DARISC]

Originally Posted by tweezers74

This. I AM more forward. That being said, if I ask you to go out for coffee, I am asking you out for coffee.

Exactly. Some, especially older, men, may be taken aback by a woman's simple question, in this case, "Would you like to meet for coffee?", because such questions were not asked by women when they were younger.

[DanielDudley]

All guys think that any advance from a woman means she wants him. Not always the case.