How Important IS Sex In Your Relationship With Your Significant Other?

[M.D. Holloway]

How important is it to your overall happiness?

[manbridge 74]

You always have some interesting questions. Kudos for that.

Now for the truth.....

When you truly love someone no matter what and are willing to hold nothing back and be vulnerable to imperfection in others..... that is where you'll find the absolute best sex.

To me it is an indicator of the health of the relationship. So it's vital.

[onewhippedpuppy]

Vital. The ultimate physical expression of love and a big part of being a human. To deny that is to deny the animal instincts that make us tick. Is there any one factor that more influences people? When I hear someone married "joke" about how they don't have sex with their spouse, my first thought is that their marriage is struggling. Often times I am correct.

[Sarc]

Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy

When I hear someone married "joke" about how they don't have sex with their spouse, my first thought is that their marriage is struggling. Often times I am correct.

Agree 100%

[IROC]

I think it's VITAL. My wife seems to be farther down the list of options...

[sammyg2]

nunyerdambiddness!

[12own911]

It's important but not Vital and the reason I say this is: if I were injured and could no longer feel would this mean that you would divorce me?

[Burnin' oil]

How about an option for "Sometimes absolutely. positively critical and sometimes not."

[FrankyV]

If I didn't want to hit I would certainly quit it.

[manbridge 74]

Originally Posted by 12own911

It's important but not Vital and the reason I say this is: if I were injured and could no longer feel would this mean that you would divorce me?

Still vital due to memories. My wife had a colostymy bag for 8 months. Love never died. Sex still vibrant, so no.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by 12own911

It's important but not Vital and the reason I say this is: if I were injured and could no longer feel would this mean that you would divorce me?

I was about to post "wonder how the response would be on a predominately female BBS"?

This is a touchy subject because sex has been so cheapened in our society as a purely physical activity and rarely seen as the beautiful joining of two people who love each other.

[FrankyV]

Originally Posted by scottmandue

I was about to post "wonder how the response would be on a predominately female BBS"?

This is a touchy subject because sex has been so cheapened in our society as a purely physical activity and rarely seen as the beautiful joining of two people who love each other.

I will bet your wife makes you call it "making love" at all times. For me, in a good relationship it can vary from hot monkey sex to a deep emotional experience. To reference another thread, while watching sports has never made me cry, I have certainly experienced tears of joy in the bedroom.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by SkankyFrank

I will bet your wife makes you call it "making love" at all times.

Uh no... not sure of the intent of your comment.

[FrankyV]

Originally Posted by scottmandue

Uh no... not sure of the intent of your comment.

Dude, just giving you some grief about your sensitive man comments, no harm intended.

[HardDrive]

Sex is very important to my wife and I. So much so, that we sometimes have it with each other

[rnln]

Oh, back to the young age... to some girls who think sex is not that important (many asian do). All they need is love/feeling, I agree, but I wanted it anyway.
To those who think it is important to a relationship, I totally agree.
What 12own911 said is an exceptional case. Of course, I have to tight it up any bite my teeth if that is the case

[Outback Porsche]

Sex has nothing to do with it - it's all about the hug and the deep and meaningful conversation.

[FrankyV]

Originally Posted by HardDrive

Sex is very important to my wife and I. So much so, that we sometimes have it with each other

And we have a winner..take a bow, that is funny

[Don Ro]

Originally Posted by SkankyFrank

For me, in a good relationship it can vary from hot monkey sex to a deep emotional experience.

This saves me from posting my thoughts on the matter.
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Werner Erhardt (EST) had a simple axiom in the "About Sex" seminar:
"When you're hot, you're hot. When you're not, you're not."
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My experiences have shown me that women more often than I thought wanted a quickie to discharge some psychic energy/edge and not a long dragged-out multi-orgasmic marathon. Thus the meaning behind the axiom.
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As you were.

[dw1]

As we've aged, it's moved from vital -> important.

With many years of marriage, communications and emotional connections have increased in importance.