If you don't want me to fix it then why tell me?

[asphaltgambler]

Men = need to be loved

Women = need to feel wanted

[cstreit]

They just want you to "be aware of" the issue and to a acknowledge she is dealing with it.

I think when we attempt to fix it, it also makes them feel like we think they can't handle it.

[john70t]

You could have. But you didn't.
Now you owe her.
Don't worry, it will be forgotten by the next argument.

[Amail]

What I'd like to hear: "Roll over"

What she says: "Dammit, you're snoring again, it smells like you ate a goat's ass, I haven't gotten to sleep yet and it's 3:00 am, I have to get up in three hours to watch the kids. The dog keeps farting and I can't roll over because the cat hasn't given me any room. Can you PLEASE roll over and let me sleep?"

Brevity - learn it.

[glewis80SC]

Originally Posted by mikester

lmfao!!! Love this !!!!

[Baz]

Originally Posted by cantdrv55

Been married almost 30 years and I still don't get her sometimes. I think most of our fights stem from this. I'm in sales so I think I'm a really good listener and an excellent problem solver. She's tying my hands!

No need to go any further than the first post.

FYI:

She does NOT want you to solve the problem.

She only wants to complain about the problem - and for you to HEAR her complaining about the problem.

I realize this does not make sense. Which is probably why I am not married nor do I have a woman living with me - nor will I EVER have a woman living with me.

YMMV....

[scottmandue]

A man is walking along the beach and he trips on a magic lamp, he polishes it off and a genie comes out.
"I will grant you one wish" says the genie.
The man thinks for a while and he finally says, "You know, I've always wanted to go to Hawaii, but I've been too scared to fly on a plane, and boats always make me seasick, so I want you to make a bridge to Hawaii."
The genie replies, "Are You Crazy!?!? That would be almost impossible, do you know how deep the ocean is, that would be such a long drive, it just isn't structurally possible. Make another wish"
The guys thinks again and then he says, "I've had plenty of relationships but I could never make them last more than a few months, I just don't understand women. I wish I could understand women."
Then genie looks at him dumbfounded and finally says, "Do you want that bridge two lane or four?"

Not my joke

[Baz]

[Aragorn]

I learned a long time ago that the womenz just want you to listen and empathize with them. You can usually get away with just saying "that's too bad" and "I understand what you are saying... What else could you do." These phrases will allow you to concentrate on either what is on tv or what you are reading nine times out of ten.

By all means DO NOT OFFER YOUR SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM... This angers them to no end.

[sammyg2]

once my wife started telling me all about things that were bothering her, I got up and start walking for the door. She says, where are you going?
I said home depot. If I'm gonna fix all that stuff I'm going to need some more tools and supplies :-)
No not really, but it woulda been cool if it did.


She's learned over the years to only mention things to me that she actually wants me to fix and save the rest of the emotional stuff for her mom and sister.

[72doug2,2S]

My advice to those who ask.

Just look her in the eye and ask her, "So, what do you think about that?"

Then shut up.

[SteamWolf]

Originally Posted by DanielDudley

Free tip.

Men are problem solvers. We have to be to hunt down big game.

Women are social thinkers. They were made to band together in groups and raise the children. This means they want to share socially. She doesn't want you to solve her problems. She is just sharing. She is perfectly capable of solving her own problems.

She doesn't want to. You would be better off not commenting, and just saying, That's tough. Thanks for sharing.''.

I kid you not. For many women, bragging about the problems they have to ''deal'' with is a sign of status.

Exactly this. I get into trouble by trying to fix things she unloads onto me it's not funny.

Nor does she see the irony or the funny side of it all when her car wouldn't start and I gave her a hug instead of fixing it.

Mind you, it's fun when I'm mad at her to do all the lids on the jars really really tight.

[mistertate]

If you don't want me to fix it then why tell me?

Dude, I think she wants you to buy a new one