Lost sense of humor and patience.

[slakjaw]

Any of you boys wake up one morning and everything had turned to ****? Since my stepdad died, I haven't been able to laugh, take things way too seriously, and have become a general azzhole. I don't care about the things that used to make me happy. I don't want to be an A-Hole but my patience level has been zero for a long time now. How do I get back to where I was before everything turned to ****?

Do you boys think I need to see a shrink? I'm not down with paying someone to talk to me. It's prostitution yo.

[Tilikum Turbo]

I have found one of the greatest forms of "therapy" has been some form of daily exercise.

I don't go to the gym to get buff...I simply do a 15-20 light routine on several machines, and it improves my outlook on everything. I also threw sugar out of my life about 10 years ago(no more soda, eat significantly less meat(and enjoy it more when I do).

If you golf, try that, even a 9-hole once a week, or anything else that may get you outside and moving.

Hooking up with old friends and staying in touch...also good for positive outlook.

May the force(be restored) within you!

[Eric Hahl]

See your Doctor, could be depression, low testosterone, or many other things that are easily remedied.

[Seahawk]

What about your step-dad did you admire?

Then go be that guy.

My Mother died in 1990. She was everything to me and just the finest person imaginable. It took me a month or so to realize I wasn't living up to her, or my, standards.

I think of her everyday and honor her memory by attempting to be the person she imagined me to be.

Get busy.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

What about your step-dad did you admire?

Then go be that guy.

My Mother died in 1990. She was everything to me and just the finest person imaginable. It took me a month or so to realize I wasn't living up to her, or my, standards.

I think of her everyday and honor her memory by attempting to be the person she imagined me to be.

Get busy.

This! Get out there, MOVE! Do something! This sort of negative attitude usually comes for having too much time on your hands and too much introspection.

[recycled sixtie]

What you are experiencing is not unusual. Minor depression I would think is quite common. Yes as the above mentions exercise is a natural sedative. Also golf is good as long as you don't get too serious about it. I like going for a bike ride too.

I too can have a short temper but unfortunately I use it with my daughter occasionally. It is probably not the way to get respect but I am not a pushover either. Us folks are not perfect people. The way you or I handle our shortcomings is important.

If you need to see a psych. then do so or alternatively find the inner strength to cope. Drugs and alcohol are not the solution although a psych. might prescribe a mild sedative. Pm me if you need to talk.

Cheers, Guy

[cantdrv55]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

What about your step-dad did you admire?

Then go be that guy.

My Mother died in 1990. She was everything to me and just the finest person imaginable. It took me a month or so to realize I wasn't living up to her, or my, standards.

I think of her everyday and honor her memory by attempting to be the person she imagined me to be.

Get busy.

Excellent advice and it's free

[Jim Richards]

Slak, you just need to clear your head. Nothing clears a head better than a nice long road trip. And since you're a helluva guy, I'm going to tear up your bill for my psychiatric consultation.

[Rikao4]

sounds like you are trying to tough it out...
and realize you can't..
and that is a good place to start..

take a bat and smash your mattress for a bit...
quit laughing...I can hear you..
but your angry about quite a few things..
so swing hard...
try it....

Rika

[Arizona_928]

You're depressed. As mentioned before excise will help a great deal, also a pet helps out a lot. But it is not healthy keeping it in, you will destroy yourself for the inside out. You need to talk to someone; support group, shrink, friend.

My brother died my sr. Year of high school. It took years to get over it to where I can say what happened without the water works. I'm still here, so I can see you making it through it!

[Tobra]

Anyone that sounds like a fortune cookie all the time probably has some deep insight, or is just effing with us for a decade. Pretty much free too.

Paul's advice is probably better though. You need to get up and get going man.

[herr_oberst]

[mrybczyn]

Get the doc to check you out, sometimes it's some unexpected stupid thing, for instance, I had a vitamin b12 deficiency, that made me feel stressed and angry a lot. Took a vitamin a day, much better...

[mistertate]

You made some good jokes in the gardening thread, that's something you can feel good about.

[Shaun @ Tru6]

Start here and work your way up. You're a good guy Kyle, always keep that in mind. It will guide you.

sounds like you are trying to tough it out...

and realize you can't..

and that is a good place to start..



take a bat and smash your mattress for a bit...

quit laughing...I can hear you..

but your angry about quite a few things..

so swing hard...

try it....



Rika

[mikester]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

What about your step-dad did you admire?

Then go be that guy.

My Mother died in 1990. She was everything to me and just the finest person imaginable. It took me a month or so to realize I wasn't living up to her, or my, standards.

I think of her everyday and honor her memory by attempting to be the person she imagined me to be.

Get busy.

This.

My best friend died just recently. He was 44.

I'm still grabbing the phone to call him.

He died right before the biggest kind of moment in my career which was yesterday. He wouldn't want me to stop being the guy he liked so I'll keep being that guy.

Or try.

It isn't easy.

[Gogar]

More Exercise.

Less booze.

It's absolutely 100% true.


Call a shrink or go jogging. One of those choices is free.

[lendaddy]

You need to make a conscious decision to be happy/content. I know it sounds corny and I will admit it's easier to be a coach than a player on this but it's still true. Think on it, try it, get back to me. Stop being angry....it really is that simple.

The momentary fulfillment that comes from being properly and justifiably pissed off is drug that will keep you from taking the right fork in the road. Stop enjoying being pissed off, it's not worth it.

[Nostril Cheese]

Originally Posted by slakjaw

Any of you boys wake up one morning and everything had turned to ****? Since my stepdad died, I haven't been able to laugh, take things way too seriously, and have become a general azzhole. I don't care about the things that used to make me happy. I don't want to be an A-Hole but my patience level has been zero for a long time now. How do I get back to where I was before everything turned to ****?

Do you boys think I need to see a shrink? I'm not down with paying someone to talk to me. It's prostitution yo.

Embrace change. It happens. Build something with it. I've been in the same place you are now. I can only offer what helped me overcome some serious grief in my life. I tried to focus that negative energy into something different and creative, even if only for five minutes a day. The cumulative result over 3 years is that I now play bass for a jazz metal band.

That which you manifest is before you.

This always cheers me up when I'm stressed..

[LeeH]

Originally Posted by lendaddy

You need to make a conscious decision to be happy/content. I know it sounds corny and I will admit it's easier to be a coach than a player on this but it's still true. Think on it, try it, get back to me. Stop being angry....it really is that simple.

The momentary fulfillment that comes from being properly and justifiably pissed off is drug that will keep you from taking the right fork in the road. Stop enjoying being pissed off, it's not worth it.

Yep. Have you listened to your inner voice? What's it saying? Is it the voice of the person you want to be? I've learned to tell my negative self to STFU and have replaced it with a more positive, easy going version. It's worked wonders.

I watched this video a dozen time a couple of years ago. Have to say that it changed my life for the better.