You're not what I expected.
 

A prospect recently told me that. When I asked her what she was expecting, she kind of skirted the question and changed the subject. When I asked her again after a few minutes passed and our conversation reached a short lull, she said she thought I'd be younger and taller. I laughed it off but WTF? How was I supposed to take that? Anyway, it took me off guard and I didn't recover well. I don't think there's going to be a second meeting.

I know we've all had fantasies of pretty faces behind sexy voices but I experienced the disappointment from the other side. It sucked. Has that ever happened to you? I should really take my dieting more seriously and probably dye the sparse hair on my dome.

We need pictures of both of you. Did she do roofing work?

We had a re-organization once and the secretary of my new organization called (this was before email) to inform me of a meeting for our new group. Her voice was incredible. I pictured some stunning supermodel with a penchant for low-cut dresses. In reality, she ended up being hideous and incompetent.

Sounds like a shallow prospect. Suggest worrying less about image and more about substance.

I wouldn't lose too much sleep over it.

The upside is.....it will provide incentive for you to do what you said in your post...

There really is no downside that amounts to anything more than some hurt feelings - that can be converted (as I stated) into incentive.

Don't let it bug you, man. It's not that big a deal. Take stock in yourself and get your MOJO where you want it - you deserve it.

Ever hear the saying, "You can't tell a book by its cover"?

I had a boss that played a good amount of golf and so I did as well. He had a girlfriend and when I met her she asked me how I found time to play so much golf. My reply was, "I'm very good at what I do".

Back in the last millennium when I still lived with my parents I dated a chick with a sexy voice. My dad would answer the phone and tell me "Ole sexy voice is on the phone" She could read the phone book and arouse any straight man. Her appearance did not live up to her voice but I was not looking for a life partner. I was just a teenage boy with one thing on my mind.

Was this a dating prospect or a business prospect? I thought you were married.

a great face for radio!

Dieting, absolutely, your health is everything.

Hair? Shave that chit! Nothing worse than a guy trying to do something with nothing and it's "jet black"...

I'm 28 and balding like a banshee, the only reason I have hair is Mrs Saucy can't commit to Mr Bic:rolleyes:

Internet dating - A place where it is all topical, no core, no value, no virtue.
Things used to be the other way , Now it is all bling blam.
People want a relationship out of a 1000 email count.!
Not going to happen.
I learned, go to the phone ASAP and a date in next 3 to 5 days. other wise someone is there for all the wrong reasons.
simple

Early on in my on line dating experience I met someone in the lobby of a very crowded restaurant she had picked. She looked at me and said, you don't look like your pictures, which was the first and only time that happened. It was a bad start to a bad date but there was no easy way out. We shook hands in the parking lot after an ok dinner. I emailed thanks. She wanted to get back together??? No thanks.

I learned from that experience to plan first dates for afternoon coffee or early evening drinks. Easy things to cut off or make into quick, "gotta go somewhere" exits. If things go well, you can always extend. I've had some nice half a day coffee dates. Embrace the bald look and get fit. Women either love the look or don't. Don't waste time on those that want someone with a full head of hair but bald and a beer gut is bad for you and bad for your love life.

You're a nice guy for still getting dinner with her.

If I went on a date that started that way... You too, must not be the person I was looking for, and walk away :)

If that was an employee prospect: not so smart.

Never a good strategy to drop a backhanded comment.

This?

I am married now but did the internet dating thing... had a great date but ended with "you are the nicest guy I have met in a long time but I'm not comfortable with your age."

I was all WTF I had current pictures of myself posted and my age was clearly stated in my profile?

Anywho... people are weird (I should know) no point is worrying about the random persons opinion.

Business prospect. Sorry, I should've been more specific. Not wanting to do business with me because of my looks is indeed shallow. One thing I had not considered is that she may be racist.

I hate it when my racist tendencies ruin a business deal

Wow, definitely a backhanded comment and the lady clearly lacks manners. Sorta like you saying: "Gee I didn't expect your butt would be so big." Bad form. Still a point of inner reflection though. These days, physical fitness equals attractive and it really is a personal choice.

expectations = disappointments on the hoof.

I was hired by a phone interview by a female boss and a female peer (I never met either before, but both younger than me and rather attractive). Later, when the topic of them selecting me came up, I said "admit it, you just hired me for my looks"...and they hesitated, then seemed to agree, paused thoughtfully and then laughed and said; "but it was a phone interview".

Winner winner chicken dinner!

Hindsight is 20-20 however "I didn't expect your butt to be so big" would have been a great comeback.

Wait, seriously? I would not do business with her.

If nothing else, it speaks volumes about your confidence and communication skills. So that's a feather in your cap.

You obviously need to work on being taller!

Women crack me up... they go on and on about how men are only concerned about looks... and then stuff like this happens.

Whether we like it or not, appearance goes a long way in the workplace. When I quit working so hard/long and spent more time working out and dressing better...my work (probably not quite as good as before) was much better received. It was really good to be in good shape again too.

:D

Haha,

I am in the service business and periodically a client will exhibit disrespect for me or one of my crew. I resist the comeback temptation and quietly raise the price. We call it the PITA surcharge. Common courtesy and good manners have monetary value in my book.

Just tell her you're a millionaire and have a very large penis.

As others mentioned, the dying the hair part if complete fail. At 52 I am mostly gray, and see others at work who are the same age or a little older to magically don't have any gray. It isn't genetics though - the dye never lies.

Forget the diet - exercise every day. A couple months back I had three acute back episodes and my chiro said I needed to get into the pool and change my life otherwise I'd be on a surgeon's table in 6 months. I took her seriously and have been doing laps at the Y most every day. In the past 2.5 months I think I've missed 4 days and one of those was 4July when they were closed. While my hair is still gray, a lot of the curves on my body have moved. I weigh the same, but look and feel great. Wife is happy (plus she's been swimming with me - me happy). It has required a life change as I prioritize getting to the pool, but it is the perfect exercise and my results have been stellar. ymmv.

Nothing looks gheyer than an old dude who dyes his hair. It's like wearing a rug. But then I started going grey at 21, so I've had plenty of time to adjust. :)

I'd also advise against shaving your head unless you're one of those guys with a perfect noggin that looks good bald. Shaved head has sort of become the comb-over of the last 20 years, in most cases it's just throwing in the towel on your appearance. YMMV, depending on head shape.

Oh yeah, the best advice of all is to stop caring what women think of you. Fk 'em if they can't take a joke, as I always say. :)

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Forget about doing business with her. Can't win them all.

Exercise daily. Portion control, not dieting.

Don't dye hair.

Don't shave head because my skull is shaped like a peanut.

Control the controllables.

Great advice everyone. Thank you.

With that attitude you should be fine. Head like a peanut, lol.

This!

By saying what she said, she simply vetted herself as a potential client/partner.

Maybe you should have said something in reply but that can be difficult when something comes at you from left field.

For instance... Not that long ago I met a "lady" for coffee. She seemed nice enough but she was a smoker and had lovely dark brown teeth to match. :rolleyes:
During coffee she actually asked me. "If you let your hair grow would you still be bald on top?" (I mostly sport a Zero)

I just sat there gob smacked. When I regained some composure I ended the meeting and left.

Just what does a peanut-shaped head look like? Better than a walnut or cashew I have to imagine.

You should post pictures so we can critique you and make you feel like crap.

You should post pictures so we can critique you and make you feel like crap.

That is what friends are for?

We're here for ya :D

One of my uncles (RIP) used to call me knot-head when I was a youngin'....
Who knew a young "knot" matured to be a "pecker" :p?

if it makes you feel any better Chris,
you are exactly what i expected!!

You guys are great. Thanks for the laughs.

I've found the, "oh, congratulations, when are you due?" Line works really well in these situations.

Here ya go Shaun.....;)

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