He needs a cat.

A pet could help actually.

Maybe a dog would get him walking everyday and get some needed oxygen to his brain.

Then some serious exercise to clear up his thinking process.

Right now it's like he's drunk, only it's glucose induced.

A serious change in diet.

If he spent that money on going to a fat farm he would have been way better off.

Send him to Dr. Phil!!!!

Yep, sucker born every minute. Just when you think people can't be more gullible, and stupid, they prove you wrong.

Thios guy needs a friends "Intervention" to try to set him straight.

Someone once said: "a fool and his money are my best friends".

Our decisions and actions have consequences, or at least they should have.

That's how people learn. But when society or gubmint bails out people for their stupid mistakes, they keep making them.

Maybe with his heath issues he feels like he won't be here for long anyway and is trying to get his last chance at happiness.
Maybe 2 cats.

Usually starts much sooner with their own parent(s) imo. In my lifetime, I've been around more of those than the type you refer to...YMMV.

This is a slow death by a thousand cuts.

Somebody that is depressed and doesn't want to fight for life anymore.

I don't believe in medication (anti-depressants) although that may be an option for him.

Only someone that doesn't like themselves would hurt themselves so much, and if that's the case he may be too far along for walking everyday and taking apple cider vinegar or other homeopathic cures.

If he wants it to end, then maybe the best you can do is make sure he doesn't have access to firearms.

OCT. 8, 2015
Gun Deaths Are Mostly Suicides
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/09/upshot/gun-deaths-are-mostly-suicides.html

He's got a dog. A bernese mountain dog that he keeps very good care of. Has him groomed every two months or so. His physical shape makes walking the dog a impossibility. He's a egg and waddles when he walks. Most people when they walk use their toes for balance. Diabetics because of nerve damage can't use their toes so they waddle.

Getting him laid? He's type 1 diabetic. Which means that part of the plumbing don't work. He told another buddy the little blue pills don't work. But that doesn't stop him from trying. Last summer he was in and around the low track (where street hookers work) and according to him a girl was hitch hiking and he offered to give her a ride. She saw his wallet sitting in the center console and when he stopped for a stop sign she grabbed it and bolted. Him being a waddling egg didn't go after her.

When he told that story I laughed. Just giving her a ride? :)

No firearms. He has a crossbow. Which he paid $500 for. So he decided that is how much he should get for it when he tried to sell it. I tried to explain that was not how used bows were sold but I didn't know what I was talking about.

He already said if he decides to end it he will just OD on his insulin. Go to sleep and not wake up.

I hate to say it, but a friend like that only can make you feel better about yourself as your problems pale by comparison.

I hate to say this, but I would put distance between myself and him....life is just too short imo. I'd tell him, IF he really wants help, he's got my number, and I will do what I can.

Then don't wait by the phone....he ain't never gonna call. It sucks...but it is....

Absolutely, it is the parent's responsibility to teach the difference between right and wrong and usually that message needs to be delivered and reinforced prior to the teenage years to be effective. After that it's often too late to catch up.

But a person who reaches adulthood can still learn not to touch a hot stove top if their fingers get burned.
Take away the sensation of heat and they'll keep doing it until their fingers fall off.


Sound advice. If he wants help he'll ask, if he doesn't there's not much that can be done without getting drug into the swamp.

G, you are most certainly allowed to remove such vexation from your life. You don't need to stop caring, just stop thinking you can help him. I had to do it years ago with a self destructive friend. I had to let her go.

"A fool and his money are soon partying!" :)

This man's illness is some kind of cognitive disorder, not intellectual. He's not stoopid. His thinking is whack.

He's in complete denial of negative outcomes because recognizing them would deny him his hedonistic pursuits.

So is she hot?

If he is grossly overweight that is probably a huge factor in his ED.

Your friend is not only an idiot.
He is greedy.

The textbook con preys on greed.
He thinks he will get this pile of gold.
That's how the con works to extract money.

The rest is sunk cost fallacy.

There is a good chance his “girlfriend” is local.