I don't like it when grocery stores are constantly asking for donations
 

It bugs me when every time I get to the register the clerk is asking me if I want to make a donation to some cause. I believe in charity but I don't like being asked. I prefer to be anonymous.

That said, the other day I was asked by a clerk if I wanted to donate to their charity and I replied "I will if you will" and the clerk looked at me completely stumped. She didn't understand and said huh? I said get your wallet and I'll match whatever you donate. She then said they were not allowed to do that. I said "huh" and left.

Am I being rude? This caught me at a bad time and wasn't feeling it.

Yes. Its not like the employee has any control. You do what you are told on the job.

BTDT years ago working for walden books. They were the first with a membership club. We were required to tell. If a secret shopper came thru and didn't get asked, you could be fired.

If it's not begging for a charity, it's begging to be put on their email list. Or signing up for rewards. Or asking if you have their store card. Or asking about what you're going to do with whatever you're buying. I'm over it all. Scan my crap, take my money and let me go.

what a jackass.

There's a polite way of refusing it....when asked...."Not today Thank you!....that's all that has to be said, no backlash at the cashier or any explanation....those four words that's all

Too many business organizations assuming you should donate to whatever. Things like this get the public burned out on being generous and donating when a serious need comes around. And yes, just a simple declination is fine.

I totally agree with the OP, I donate to charities but the ones I chose not random ones that I'm being shamed into donating in public at the register.

Plus as was posted the supermarket doesn't give a fark about the charity they just want to data mine the phone number you just put in to get discounts.

Also agree the complaining to the cashier is pointless, like complaining about gas prices to the guy working at the gas station.

I spent 22 years in the Army and 1 year working in the fed gvt. I'm over the combined federal campaign. Its just a diversion for people to not work while on the clock and heaven forbid if you don't give.

No you are right. Our local Safeway always has some donation to the hungry on the CC swipe machine. They just don't tell you who the $$ is going to other than "the hungry".

That makes 2 dicks on this thread then.SmileWavy

Seriously, the cashier is doing their job, nothing more. If you have an issue with the practice, be polite and say no, remember politeness? and ask where you can find the manager to complain. He'll refer you to corporate.

Why are there so many bitter dicks in the world? What is wrong with your life that you feel you need to take it out on someone just doing their job?

When asked....Would you like to donate to prostate cancer, I respond No....I prefer to donate to the fight against prostate cancer . I get the funny look.

Why are there so many virtue signaling, self preening, fools?

i would not have gone after the cashier. that cant be a fun job..and add having to pander for some charity. bleech.

i just say "no thanks". i suspect the cashier doesn't give it any more thought..it's gone the second the next person steps up. zero guilt.

move on.

if it is a hot-ass cashier, i lie. "oh i just donated earlier today, so thanks"

Donating to one of these point-of-sale charities is personal data equivalent of a girl in a bar at closing time saying "OMG, I am soooo drunk, and I need a ride home"

someone's been triggered. Here's what you need to do, go to your safe space, spend a few moments decompressing, take a deep breath, it will be ok, really, and then craft an explanation about how it's appropriate to be rude to someone who is doing their job and has no control of the situation you are upset about. And a TINY situation that has no impact on your life, at all.

Millennials, sheesh, it's always all about them. ME, ME, ME. All about me and my feelings, such a self-centered, self-important lot you are. Time to grow up I think. SmileWavy

In general, I don't do it. I will toss money in the Salvation Army bucket, but they aren't going to harass me for the rest of the year because they don't know who I am. I also know people inside the Salvation Army and am familiar with that organization.

One of my biggest problems with this is that I have no chance to vet the charity at a cash register and it is often not clear where your money will really go. It is not uncommon for charities with seemingly noncontroversial aims to in turn make donations to charities with clear political ideologies. I can cite several examples of this. Susan G. Komen makes large donations to Planned Parenthood. The Humane Society of the United States (HSUS), is not affiliated with local Humane Societies and is really a front group for PETA. It is also not uncommon for charities to pay their executives and staffs lavish salaries (and benefits, and travel) and spend very little on their actual cause. It's too easy for a seemingly innocuous request to actually fund something that I vehemently oppose.

I just fart when they ask.

Harbor Freight is the one I have a problem with, they will not proceed without a phone # and name, ask if you a member, ask if you are on the flyer mailing list.....just let me pay cash and walk out, I don't want to be accosted every time I need a screwdriver.

The cashier, the person that eventually answers the phone after 10 minutes of frustrating VM questions you when you try and resolve an internet issue, a clerk at a store that cannot locate an item although their website states they have ten in stock...... the list goes on and on. These folks tend to be the lowest paid in the organization and we would like to think that what we say can affect change - But it will not.

I fight myself like heck to not get mad because usually common sence is lacking. I ask myself if this was my mom or my daughter how would I react. Like Matt stated, just be polite - a no thankyou response is sufficient.

It's worse here. After you get dunned at checkout, there are almost always some kids waiting for you as you exit the door. It's Girl Scouts selling cookies, young boys in coat and tie, asking for donations for their Glee Club and on and on. It's always kids. I have donated a lot in the last year to causes I care about, but I get irritated about being asked twice as I try to get home from grocery shopping. And there there are the panhandlers at most big intersections around here.

Except if she had coughed up a $50, I would have matched it.....jackass!

50 dollars to you probably means a lot more to them. Given that they are a cashier, and you are on a Porsche forum .

Unfortunately there is such thing as a business degree, one of the easiest degrees to get. ;) *

So they get a job and want to impress the boss with some new idea or program, and the only thing they can come up with is a new way to screw or otherwise inconvenience their customers.
brilliant.

*disclaimer: i'm an engineer who happens to have a business degree.

You know what I hate: The goddamned Girl Scouts humping cookies outside every goddamned store in the county!

Birth control, People, birth control.

I mean for the love of god, how dare they make me look them in the eye and tell them to **** off...it is child prostitution for cripes sake.

And the only thing thin about the fat mothers standing behind the little trolls is the Thin Mint cookie crumbs on their K-Mart sweaters.

What is their website, anyway: www.cookiewhores.com!?!

All green ink.

Here is what I say to the cashiers and Girl Scouts: No thanks. Bye.

She's a cashier. She's as relevant to the donation request as the Massengill on aisle 5.

Listen, clearly you are having regrets about treating the cashier rudely, you posted here needing some affirmation from fellow self-absorbed, bitter millennials to ease your pain.

Here's what you need to do. Go back to the store, hopefully she'll be working. Buy something or just go to her register and apologize for being rude. Simple. And you'll feel better. It's all about feelings with you millennials. You'll feel better and she'll have another story about this dick to tell to her friends.

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This is it for me, lots of charities are really borderline scams. I donate to charity but it's those that I research and choose, not the ones the grocery store guilt trips me into.

My daughter was a Girl Scout for a year, you know what those bastards do? They allot you with XXX boxes of cookies, then you have to pick up the cookies and write them a check. Now they become MY cookies that I have to sell to make MY money back. Eff that! Even worse is that now I have a crate full of Thin Mints and Peanut Butter Patties sitting in my dining room, who can resist THAT?

My daughter, btw, did not whore out said cookies in front of the grocery store. The few that I didn't eat went to friends and family. Then the gross ones went to work, because engineers will eat anything.

:p

FWIW I give the cashiers a polite no thank you too.

I just give the cashier two Franklns and only buy 10 boxes of Thin Mints at a time...

WTF is wrong with you folks?

I drive a porch ;)

And EVERYTIME I go to the store! I mean how many times do they expect me to buy cookies?

I just tell them I'm diabetic and they recoil in horror as if I'm contagious.

Actuality I tell them the truth "my wife buys the cookies in our house" she was a den mother back in the day... you know back when they would send young girls out alone selling cookies door to door? (my wife would escort her daughter)

My God Shaun! You've got some hostility issues.

I posted this thread today out of sheer boredom. After reading a week's worth of "do you fart in an elevator, funeral, dentist office, workplace, etc..., then reading a thread about donating to pan handlers and virtually everyone (except me stating "hell no"), I thought I would just add another useless topic only to bet trashed by you and others.

Go to Hell, all of you!! I will do whatever the FU@$ I want and complain about if if I want to - It's my Party! And for the record, I'm a baby boomer, not a millennial. I also voted for Trump - how's that? And yes, she's a casher, maybe I am one too. Because of you, I'm going back to that store tonight and I'm gonna really be rude!

ZERO reason to take it out on the cashier. She just doing her job, that I'm sure she gets paid ***** to do in the first place.


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The two really cute cashiers have moved away. And the two pretty cashiers my age, retired. I got to know them really well and envy their husbands. All four of them became members of the neighborhood. They knew me. They just didn't ask anymore. But the best one was when Carrie approached me once but saying, "Still giving to your favorite charity?" Which made me chuckle. Those cashiers are just doing their job, I get that very well.

Oh, by the by, this thread is the EXACT example of why we should use green font!

Hey now, you're not the boss of me! I'll go where I darn well want to!!!!

And you should go back to the store and fart in her general direction! :D

i didnt know that!! now i dont feel guilty when i walk by avoiding eye contact. the cutie already made her quota thanks to the parents. phew!!

Which leads to the next pet peeve:
soliciting sales at work.

There was a time when I would get hit up at least twice a day at work to buy cookies, candy bars, assorted cashews, you name it. All sorts of over-priced stuff.

I outlawed that practice in my department and others soon followed.
it wasn't long before it became a company edict.
keep work at work and home at home.

Wanna bet?

I love Girl Scout Cookis so I'm usually happy when they are there.

On another subject, I hate it when they ask me to open a credit card to save 10-15%. I generally answer this question with "What's the interest rate? They almost never know the answer. Then I say no thanks, I don't carry any revolving debt. Of course, Shaun will probably tell me I'm a Jack Ass.....Hey Shaun, I know!!

Yeah..I want some of that action too ;)

LOL we could start a POLE




(yeah, I know)

Pole, Poll, or Pool?