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06-17-2020 04:31 AM |
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Originally Posted by NYNick
(Post 10907590)
I have three 30 something kids with their 30 something spouses and a large and extensive mixed bag of their 30 something friends and I disagree, at least conditionally. This just seems like too broad a brush.
My kids are special (haha) so I won't talk about their work ethic or success, but I will talk about their friends. I'd say about half of them are doing well, with the other half not so well. Compare this to the idiots I went to college with decades ago and it's about the same. It always surprised me how privileged friends of mine from nice northeast communities, who were lucky enough to go to good colleges back in the day, could grow up to be lackluster dopes. DOPES!
But I see it with some of my kids' friends too. Still living at home, still dependent on Mom and Dad, still expecting a high standard of living when they aren't earning it. When I talk to these parents, they shake their head and complain but they continue to enable their kids, pay the car loans and feed and house them. I'm guessing your parents weren't like that. Certainly mine weren't. Parenting has changed in our entitled world.
Your success is because of you. You did it. You're responsible. There are plenty of 30 somethings out their succeeding and plenty that aren't. It's the way of the world.
Good for you, but don't deride the majority of a generation. They're not that bad.
Now those 40 somethings....
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No doubt it was a broad stroke and I would agree it is todays approach to parenting that is causing such issues. Even my wife can't help but spoil her only son. It took us 10 years and a huge amount of stress to have him so I get it to a degree. My parents rode me hard and there was no resting on my laurels. I spent my teen summers working on thoroughbred race horse farms, foundries and restaurants since i was 13. I agree there were underachievers in my day as well as some brilliant people. Although even the underachievers worked. I was actually the underachiever of my HS graduating class. Probably the least successful of them all. One ran for NJ Governor against Murphy but was out spent and is now legal council for NYCPD, he spent the entire Clinton administration overseeing the CIA, NSA and other agencies. They range from Spine Surgeons who own their own hospitals not clinics and has patented some of the modern spine implants that are 3D scanned and printed just prior to insertion, Top commercial lenders at banks and CEO's of fortune 100 companies etc to name a few. Although one was crazy and kept telling us In HS that she was abducted by aliens and men in Black suits would come and try to erase her memory but they couldn't. She ended up on The 1980's TV show Ripley's Believe it or not with Jack Palance and I heard her voice on the tv. She was actually used as a reference for the MIB movies. LOL
My sons friends just graduated one is now employed by Lloyds of London making serious money. They are out there but these are the exception not the rule as I see it. When speaking to friends with kids ranging from 20-30's it is all the same complaints about getting them motivated and moving out. So there seems to be a commonality to it.
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Originally Posted by ShopCat
(Post 10908610)
I actually have to side with sugarwood's general point on this one, convoluted and trolly as he is wording it.
Old man yells at the internet that young people are lazy and stubborn. Yawn. Get over yourself, plenty of lazy people young and old, plenty of successful and hard working people young and old. Your generation is not special, no generation is special. Sorry if this is news to you. All generations youth have had these traits forever into the past.
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Please say what you feel and don't hold back.
I don't spend my time in my garage as suga seems to think. I mentor and help out several business since I have retired. One was a foundry where we came up with a new healthier sand mix that produces one of the finest magnesium sand castings I have ever seen and my parts were considered the best in the industry. Spent a number of years helping a friend with his restoration and paint shop. He inherited a business and helped him organize and move it to a new location and has built it into one of the best restoration shops I know of and I know everyone considered the top east coast shops as recognized by PCA. Currently I am mentoring some 30 something's. One is just downright brilliant one of the smartest technical minds i have met the other graduated top of his class from Stevens Institute for Engineering and equally as smart but more educated than brilliant. They fix others mistakes and they are abundant. Many are from some of the top known Porsche shops as well as young hacks. They can tune any make or model car from old Kugelffisher and CIS to the latest ECU's. They tune Motec, Syvecs, Haltech, Aim, Vems etc and can crack factory ECU's. They also have the latest best Hunter equipment and know how to use it. We have also tested and fit some of the latest SOUL exhaust systems and their dyno charts are used to show actual power gains on their mustang dyno. These are the exceptions I mention.
My comments are based on so many factors but mostly on the myriad of youths that come into the shop to have these guys fix others crappy work. So much hack work done by well know internet followed shops and the work was done by a 30 something who used a google search to perform the work for the first time and or usually we can see the video of the shops hack job on line and people applauding it. I can't tell you how many come in still living at home spending their parents money a second time or having to deal with the parents pleading with us to fix what their son or daughter paid to have done by these hacks. Even my son sees it and complains at 22. He is fed up with most of the people his generation and older for the same reasons I mention.
Of course there is always the rule and the exception. As I see it 20% of the young kids I see come into these shops have a clue the rest are clueless. It is the comments from people that say Yawn get over it that seem to me to be the biggest concerns and don't and or won't see the error of their ways until it is way too late in life.
It is the internet and this is just another opinion out of so many but I am not alone in my assertions and can quote many 30 somethings who IMO will make it complain even more than I about their peers.
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