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Originally Posted by stomachmonkey

You never know what someones story is.

My son will be 15 this year.

High functioning Aspergers.

Kid is kindest, sweetest compassionate soul you'll meet and he's smart, funny, makes me smile a 100 x's a day.

But he is nearly virtually incapable of social interaction.

And it's getting worse as he gets older, not better.

I suspect it has to do with as he gets older it being easier to see his personality is not like other kids his age.

When he was younger it "fit" within what one might expect of a 5 or 10 year old.

Now he just comes across as incredibly immature but that's not what it is.

It closes him off from other people. He knows he's different in some way and rather than call attention to himself he tunes out.

His older sister came to us about a year ago, she said "I get it now" and her attitude towards him completely changed. Not that they had a bad relationship before, they got along great, it's that she now understands his not trying to be an annoying little ****.

She even had the sense to say to us "I guess I'm always going to have to be close by when you guys are not here any more"

This **** ain't easy.

Cut people some slack unless you know for sure what they are dealing with.

That's one thing, but if something like that is an issue, then the parents need to lead with "I'm here because...." especially if the "child" is of college age and trying to get a job as a professional (or in a professional workplace).

I suspect there are parents that are just doing it wrong, probably more than there are parents in your position.