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Originally Posted by Cajundaddy
In home health care varies a lot regionally so you will want to check with her physician and local aging centers for recommendations.
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^This.
Don't just get a single quote with one company.
(not to say "care dot com" is bad, cough 3rd party, but there might be better alternatives)
You and more importantly her will lose in the long run.
I self-programmed the names "Angelcare" and "HomeInstead" here in Michigan as positive names...but things are different everywhere.
You need to start becoming a professional now.
You need to start asking everyone: Friends. Associates. Church. Co-workers. That crack dealer. Paperboy. Girl Scouts. Cashier.
Get it all. And write that ***** down. Join a group. Talk to people.
And then go help others locally.
There is still a lot of national improvement needed in this sector.
Remember you are the final boss.
Or you should be!
Mom (who is of sound mind) should sign legal documents naming you as trustee/guardian/power of attorney.
Or she should be naming someone else she trusts.
In case she is not of sound mind, then that needs to be proven with your lawyer, her physician, the judge, and then every other utility company under the sun.
Have her make a slush fund cash account and auto-pay bills from that now.
That named person is the only person who can legally get things accomplished.
Everyone else including potentially you is probably a scammer in their eyes rightfully.
But always remember: As boss your work is never done.
Things will always get worse until it is over.
Hospice can immediately provide the extra care and comforts normal nurses can not.
Respect those few care health workers who are always doing 150% work for strangers like your family...even a little tip and smile and special extra effort makes it all right in the end.
And remember it is an emotional time.
Role reversal. Chaos. Changing accounts. Getting information. Getting more information. Death and loss is the only result.
Eventually you will need help and time off too.