[fintstone]

I guess I am not mature...because I do not call this abusive:

"Keith King, who is 15 years older than his wife, controlled her access to money, manipulated her low self-esteem, brought porn into the relationship, looked through her phone every other week, put her to work without pay, and continued to schedule shows after she said it was too much work and she needed help with her daughter, Patrick said. He tracked her movements and insisted she keep her hair blond, and wear bikinis and high heels, Patrick said."

Read more here: https://www.heraldsun.com/news/local/crime/article215577310.html#storylink=cpy

I suspect most guys would track the movements of a wife he knew was cheating on him, expect her to contribute to the family by working in the family business, etc. If she wanted out, it is pretty easy to get a divorce. Sounds like a gold digger who didn't want to give up the gravy and a guy that expected she deliver what she promised. She knew she was marrying an older, goofy looking dude. Her choice. The "other guy" should have insisted she gain her freedom before he milked the cow. No one buys a cow when milk is free. Letting her husband pay for feeding and housing the cow he was enjoying the milk of is a clear foul. Hs choice. Don't write a check you don't want to cash...at least not in NC.