[pavulon]

Going through this right now with my mom. Life long smoker, pneumonia, new onset atrial fibrillation led to respiratory failure, ICU, intubation and mechanical ventilation for several days. Now off the breathing tube and on/off of BiPAP. She has advance directives stating no breathing tube or feeding tube but accepted both as a way to get past this time (hopefully). She’s pretty miserable right now so I spoke to her about the situation and asked how she wanted to proceed last night. Brother is totally pissed about that conversation.

My point here is that situations tend to drive decisions and that situations evolve. Paperwork seems neat and tidy and I do support having it in place but people need to talk about stuff like this before and during tough times. When it goes to the mat, not everyone will want a few pieces of paper standing between them and tomorrow.

As always, Ymmv.