[jcommin]

I agree with Afterburn here! I worked with a eldercare service, a work benefit who provided me with a checklist - what to look for. I used that checklist as an acceptance check list. It helped allot. My mom was in an assisted home for 4 years from 1994 to 1998 - she had Alzheimers. My mom never wanted to go to those type of places but sometimes there are no good options.

I hated that place - largely because I knew there wasn't going to be any improvement. When she passed, I was relieved I wouldn't be going there anymore. I lost my mom 2 times: once when she ceased to know me and when she finally passed on.

Those places still wig me out. Be prepared to spend allot of money - if it is isn't right for you - it probably isn't.

I wish you the best - good luck!