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Originally Posted by A930Rocket

My dad passed away a year ago from last December. He planned ahead and my mom is comfortable, but she's getting up there in age (she's 88). She loves the house she's in (42 years), but it's big and getting to be bit much with maintenance, etc. Plus, her eyesight is going downhill fast. Mentally, she is sharp as a tack. She no longer drives and is stuck at home, but does have visitors and family several days a week. I'm six hours away, so don't get to see her enough.

We have talked about an assisted living for her. She says she doesn't want to live in a "dorm", but I say it more than that, plus there will be folks she can hang out with, activities, and bussed trip to shopping, sights, etc. She can make of it what she wants.

In addition, we will have to whittle down a 5,000 SF home to what she needs, what the four kids want and what goes to charity, etc.

With that said, what kind of criteria and questions do you look for and ask when looking at assisted living?

My late Mom lived in one and it was awful. No activities at all. The residents sat and watched TV all day but it was all we could afford. I got her out as much as I could but on my own it was never enough.

So if she is active at all, physically or mentally try to ensure she'll have stuff to do.