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Originally Posted by sammyg2
I remember one time when I was young and was acting up at the dinner table. My mother told me to stop but I ignored her and continued. Dad said "that's enough".
For some reason, I decided to call his bluff and test the lines to see just how much I could get away with. IOW I continued my shenanigans in defiance.
Dad had a butter knife in his hand and flipped it around so the blade was in his hand, and gently reached over and thumped me on top of the head with the handle. He then calmly continued with his meal.
That got my attention to say the least (hurt like heck), and he never had to use physical discipline with me again.
That was a very valuable lesson that I am thankful for and a better person as a result.
I don't recall ever swatting either of my kids, but certainly would have if it were deemed necessary. Usually just a glance was enough. A few times I may have raised my voice.
Mom played good cop so I usually had to play bad cop.
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My wife is the bad cop. She get really pissed at me for being disconnected from the discipline.
I blame that on my father, I know I am offspring of him, I know deep down his crappy soul lurks in me. One time when my older son was about 2-3 years old I lost it on him, he was being a monster that day and driving us nuts, he pushed my buttons and I snapped. I turned into my father, I lost it completely and beat him in the back seat of our car in a parking lot of all places. The look on both my wife's face and my 3 year old sons is still like it was yesterday.
I was mortified immediately and hated myself for being my father.
That was the last time I ever struck another human being to this day.
So when I feel that monster welling inside me, I disconnect and I get away from the conflict and calm down. Once everyone is calm again, I will then come and talk to the offender.
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Originally Posted by Instrument 41
One question, do you have kids?
I was an expert on raising them until I had my own and realized I knew nothing.
It was and is the hardest thing I have had to do in my life.
Yep, 4 boys, 26, 24, 23 and 21. A nurse and army Sargent, Mech Eng, business owner, and a ....musician. ANd let me tell you, the rod was not spared in our household. All good guys.
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Congrats! Amazing how different each kid is. My oldest is 25 now and can run my business and has when I am not around. I really want him to go out and do his own thing, find himself, but, he likes working alongside me, he is a great co-worker and son.
My younger is 15, he is really smart, I am not sure I can help him with math much more as he is about to exceed my level of education as a freshman.
Not sure what direction he is going in, I am confident he will be fine.
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Originally Posted by DWBOX2000
I have two of my own. I don't give advice anymore. People that have wonderful kids, hate to tell ya but it's not always the parenting. Some kids are just programmed differently.
I met a guy at a bar one night and he was telling me about his two kids that went to Harvard and Boston University. I said you obviously have the parenting thing down. He replied that he left out the one that was in prison. In that kids defense, he did play in the NHL.
To the original question, I don't want school doing the hitting but I am okay if they kicked my kid out of class and he or she wouldn't move. Then remove physically if needed.
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My nephew is a perfect example of that, horrible life growing up, very sweet kid that would give you the shirt off his back would never think of doing anything wrong or harming anyone.