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Originally Posted by LEAKYSEALS951
I agree- some interesting points, but a lot of potential for lameness- for instance- the example from the article states:
"Felix, when I see two balls of soiled socks under the coffee table and another three next to the TV, I feel irritated because I am needing more order in the rooms that we share in common. Would you be willing to put your socks in your room or in the washing machine?"
Makes me want to puke.
How about... "Felix, get your g#$ d#$% socks off the floor right now or that's the last g#$ d#$% time you will ever watch tv down here again."
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Agreed.
IMHO, and some experience (not an expert by any means) this is what's used as the final straw. Depending on whether you're talking home or work, the messaging is different - the above is a derivative of what my kids hear, but not with absolutes cause they and I both know that eventually, they'll watch TV down there again. I play the 'gimme 5 bucks' 'why' 'cause I'm throwing your socks out next time I see them on the floor and you're going to pay me back for buying them' card. Works.
In the office, it boils down to a blunt but binary conversation, if A, then B. No in between or ambiguity, it's the three strikes rule basically. Easier if it's a subordinate and someone who works for you, there's a different approach when it's managing up or over.
End of the day, he's not wrong - there's really no need for a culture of "I'll end you" in the office, but it doesn't have to go to the 'tell me about your feelings, now let me tell you how that made me feel' Iron John campfire circle BS. There's not enough hours in the day for that.