I found this article interesting. My son went through the army special forces assessment the first woman made it through. He described her as a legitimate bad ass and said she deserved to get put through. He starts Q school in April.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/05/magazine/woman-combat-afghanistan-military.html
Jeff, I wonder if some of your observations had to do with women growing up playing with more girly things, not wrenching on cars with their dads, etc? I know my daughter and son had different experiences in this regard. I do agree with you that women and men have inherent differences, thankful for that!