I never had children, so of course I am a top expert.
I watched my cousin raise her kids. First was the girl every parent want, smart, kept her room tidy, made straight A grades, cute, and polite. They thought being a parent was easy. Then they had a son. They were determined to raise him the same way. They did not give him a toy car he asked for, they game him a "action figure" that he set about using like a dump truck, and pushed it around on the floor and made engine noises. He took apart everything he could get his hand on.
The relented, and admitted boys brains are not the same as girls. Now both are college graduates, the girl is a wife and homemaker married to a lawyer. The son is aUS Forrest ranger in Wyoming, he loves to be outside.