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Originally Posted by Tervuren

It depends on how much power is wielded and the ensuing possible consequences.

As a gamer I tend to want to be around a variety of people, this often means keeping my own candid thoughts to myself as to be open would immediately set certain people against me. Part of this is at different times being a guild officer, founder, leader, etc...

In a leadership position I will make the hard call that someone that melts down over disagreements does not belong in my group in the long term. I will generally talk this over with others to hear their say.

Then it is time to go to the easily offended and explain that they either need to toughen up, leave, or face the ban hammer. Ultimately I do it because I know they will not be happy if status quo is maintained, and multiple people would leave the guild if status quo is maintained.

When I'm in charge of an organization and there is conflict I look at where I want the organization to grow or be. Straighten or prune as needed. When I'm in charge I want a place where thick skin is the norm, where people can disagree but still work together. I look at who makes the group weaker vs who makes it stronger, and weight in the balance.

Now lets flip the tables, lets say I am a member in an organization and not a leader. It then becomes a matter of where I expect leadership to fall should I stop walking on eggshells mixed with if I really want to be within that organization.

I am very charismatic in gaming, if I leave a place it fails. It makes me very reticent to join places in the first place as if I decide I don't fit in; the void of lacking my lively banter can shatter a formerly stable organization. There are other times where it was a natural exodus where people left for same reasons I did. I have seen both.

Now these considerations also apply to a workplace.

However family dynamics are different in that you don't choose your family. Your only option is an attempt at exclusion. Because other members of your family may not share your ideas the amount you have to cut may be much bigger than you expect.

I'm generally one to check the foundation my artillery is firing from before I load the cannon and fire it off. You don't want to do a "Humpty Dumpty".

Sounds like manipulation to me