[recycled sixtie]

I am sorry to hear about your BIL. His wife/your sister will need support from you and other family members. Please make sure she gets professional help.

I would like to relate to you how my father was at the end of WW2. He was a successful Lancaster bomber pilot and did two tours of ops. At the end of the war he went into a state of depression or delayed shock reaction. He was in a psychiatric hospital and my mother said a razor blade could not be left in his room or else he would have cut his wrists. He suffered from depression and smoked heavily. He died when he was 52 of cancer and I was 21 at the time.

And you cantdrv55 look after yourself and family. Time has a way of healing.