[billybek]

I didn't read every reply but think I had seen a response that mentioned giftedness.
Having him tested to see if he is gifted is not a bad idea and the psychologist he is seeing should be able to accommodate that test.
Gifted kids often have tenancies towards autism, ADHD and depression (and more). Not such a great gift in some cases.
Having him tested for giftedness and maybe changing up his doc for counselling until you find one that works for him could be a life changing solution for the whole family.
We were very fortunate that the school board here has a charter school for gifted kids and a program that will accommodate the gifted in their different needs inside the mainstream school system.
One of my friends had moved his son to the gifted school and was amazed at the difference in his son's behavior. After the first day his son came home from school and said "I have found my people".
My son was coded gifted and was difficult to deal with in school. Through counselling and hard work you would never know that he had any social issues when he was younger.
Polite, interesting and interested. Can't ask for much more than that.