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Originally Posted by 1979-930
I'm sure you are correct. But I need to forcefully guide the direction while he is young and I still can. I can't tolerate laziness.
I scare him with working for me if he doesn't get a degree. I should get a shovel with his name engraved on it so he knows what is waiting for him.  |
It's too late to forcefully do anything with him. We say that 18 is an adult, but at 16 he's well on his way to being his own person. My dad learned that the hard way. 3 of the 4 of us had really bad relationships with him for a decade or more because of his attempts to push us a certain way counter to his claims that he would love us just the same regardless of what we decided to do with our lives. It doesn't work. The best thing you can do for him is let him fall down and pick himself up.