[jhynesrockmtn]

It's an addiction. I don't understand it but I don't really understand the others either. She's enabled this over this years by allowing him to get this far down the rabbit hole and not bailing. It sounds like she's kept most of their finances separate but that won't likely help during a divorce depending on the laws in your state. Sucks for her. Her life won't get better until she draws a line in the sand and leaves. He may get his life back on track, he may not. She needs to go live hers.