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This reminds me of my dad, who, when he went downhill, had a lot of paranoia and conspiracy theories. This was compounded by his own stubbornness and general unawareness of his own situation.

I found confronting him only alienated myself. Sometimes I would play the "son" card with tough love. Big mistake. I lost. Trying to reason with unreasonable people, is by definition, a losing proposition. Working "with" his conspiracy theories seemed to get me further down the road, but still didn't always get as far as we needed to go, as quickly as we needed to get there.

For my dad, he was convinced the next store neighbor had stolen his boats, and he wanted me to call the police to testify. He was also convinced my friend had stolen his porsche 356- only problem being, my dad never owned a 356.

Interestingly, a girl who lived across the street (when we were growing up) had a father who was going through the same thing at the same time. Her dad was convinced owls were out to get him. This being way before the official diagnosis of dementia. She and her mom had to trick him into getting a doctor's evaluation.

MRM's idea of seeing if he'd let you be custodian is a good idea. I would try that if flatbutt's recommendation gets no results from the bank. With my own dad- It felt "shady" buying into the conspiracy theories to get his trust (at least for me), but document your actions, and do what is in his best interest.

Tough times. Hang in there.