[wayner]

It is because I care that I can no longer allow contact. I've had to unplug caring in this instance.
Hate was never an emotion. Disbelief maybe. Fear definitely, but not hate.

Paul you put it well.

I personally believe that manipulative and dangerous people feed off of caring,
(and Joe I agree that their wounds at a very critical stage of their development are tragic, but depending on the condition, irreversible.)

If I have come across any other way in this thread than caring, it is in response to the advice that a person deserves access to my caring just because they are family. I recognize it as well intentioned but inadvertently careless advice, and when a professional does it, in the medical community it is called an inexperienced or perhaps clumsy act. I guess that is a take away I'd like to leave everyone with.

Do what you need to do to get over hate because that serves no purpose sure. Joe and I are on the same page on this one, but do what you need to so that you are not sucked into their vortex.

I'd caught glimpses over a number of years, but in the end Narcissistic rage is the most frightening thing that I have ever experienced, and I've been literally meters away from a lightening strike (twice), crashed motorcycle on a race track at 100mph, and have driven through Johannesburg on two wheels and no cage around me, so that says something :-)

Do some investigation and know what you are dealing with. Some people are just difficult and some people have conditions that need professional attention, and others have conditions that make them dangerous and unable to be helped. I don't care to know the difference. Like Paul, I've earned the right.

So to everyone with a difficult person in their life, just be careful out there.