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Originally Posted by Evans, Marv
Being remembered for something isn't important to me. I've led a pretty low level life in terms of memorable achievements, but always tried to broadcast some semblance of positivity around me. Nothing to do with religion. I've always tried to be a helpful, carring person who tried to promote good feelings among people I've interacted with without being intrusive in their lives. While working in education, I had lots of positive feedback from students and many kept in touch afterwards to discuss situations and directions of their lives. Leaving whatever general good I can in my wake is good enough for me. I'm going to tell my wife not to notify people when I'm gone, just let them know when they try to contact me.
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That is you, Marv. I have never met you in person but that is the exact sense I get from reading your posts over the years..
I can tell you what you won't be remember for: Paragraphs
For me it all revolves around what I learned early from my parents. They were both honest, forthright and kind as well as very stalwart. They had perspective but wouldn't be dicked with.
When my mother died the funeral was a bit much, more people than I could have imagined. My Mother was the head of the local ASPCA, a real estate broker and helped in a wide variety of endeavors.
The common refrain as spoken to me at her funeral was, from people I had never met, "she helped me find an apartment when I was desperate, a better place when I could afford it, a house when I got married...she always treated me like I mattered."
That is the key.
My Father was exactly the same. He wanted zero fanfare when he died so there was none....I was the Executor and complied. Cremated, notice in two papers and a quick interment at West Point. Family only.
I received hundreds of emails from former colleagues and friends.
Overarching theme: "Your father was a good man. He mattered to me, helped me."
That is the key.
Do that.