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Originally Posted by Norm K
IMHO you'll get no better advice than this ^^^.
If a fifteen year old child is so keen on exercising her "minor rights" and flaunting (I say flaunting, because your post gives the impression that she's not at all bashful about shoving them in your face) the powers these rights afford her, then she should actually appreciate the opportunity to pay for her own phone, cable, internet, etc. and to see to other certain necessities of life without the burden of her parents' involvement.
I'd let her know that some form of education is coming her way and that which form that education takes is, for now anyway, up to her.
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I get what is being communicated here, but isn't really the issue. "Minor rights" is not her throwing anything in our face, it's our f'd up society and laws preventing me from knowing if they're engaging with their counselor. Despite footing the bill, the counselor can't tell me anything (not even basic engagement info) about their sessions, without my daughter's consent. On the tech front, parent tracking, website restrictions, etc. are all "optional" once a child turns 13, per Google and Apple's policies.
My daughter has no credit card, just her own money. She bought her own Apple phone, because I refused to pay $850 for a kid's phone. I pay the phone/data plan, which is why I can still take away the phone. Trust me, we've gone through the "sim card and internet access are mine and will be removed, or you can just hand over the phone" conversations. She also "
happily" hands over the phone and is quick to remind us to take her other electronics too.