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Originally Posted by stomachmonkey
Sounds to me like the issue goes deeper than "taking away her iphone" will solve.
Dyslexia, hearing issues, other learning disabilities that may not be outwardly obvious commonly result in this type of persistent behaviour.
Many here who are offering strong arm advice would also advocate that college is not for everyone and what's wrong with a trade?
Why can't the same philosophy apply to High School?
Have you tried giving her the option of blowing off school?
As in OK, you don't have to go but what is it that you want to do instead? And "nothing" is not an answer, though it may be a clue.
Leave it up to her, she goes to school or she gets a job, learns a trade.
I do believe, if you haven't already, a complete medical work up is in order here.
This could be a chemical or hormonal imbalance.
I feel like there is a lot more going on than maybe she is even aware of. She feels a certain way and may not know why.
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This was my first thought, too, even though I'm pretty traditional and agree with the strongarm tactics, as well...
In today's less than desirable education system, many kids get pushed through who actually need extra help. Dyslexia, etc. are often overlooked and kids are embarrassed to talk about it. Inject them into a school system that is designed to just flow kids through it, and we end up with hundreds of thousands of "educated" adults who can't even read.
I'd start there--get her tested for a few things; take the caring parent routine and make sure she's ok. After that, if she checks out as no problems, I'd be strong arming the hell out of her.*
*I have a daughter who was/is similar, but her issue was a bit of ADHD and a lot of general apathy. Lots of drama and I called her on it--often. Trying to get her straight and to realize the world doesn't care about her drama. Long story short, of my 3 kids with my ex-wife, she has chosen not to have much of a relationship with me. So, are you willing to damage your relationship with your kid in order to make them "more successful" in life? Tough question, but my view as a parent has always been "If my kids hate me but do well in life, I did my job." Sometimes, being a parent really sucks.