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Is there any chance that something has happened or is happening at school that is causing this behavior ? Is she being bullied ? Sexually harrassed ? Rebellion is part of being a teenager but her behavior is beyond normal in my uneducated opinion .

Sit down with her at the dinner table with your wife and have as honest of a discussion as you can . Try to maintain composure but honest emotion is ok . Yes there will be tears but brutal honesty is needed . Tell her you love her and support her but for the next three years ( high school ) at a minimum is mandatory with no exceptions .

There has to be a penalty for non-compliance , what that penalty is I am not sure . Have you or your wife asked for help from professionals outside of school ? Maybe a military style school is needed ? You are in a very tough situation and your runway to get it corrected is short .

I wish you and your wife the best , in the end I hope you get the outcome you are looking for . Sadly sometimes good parents have bad children no matter what is done or said .